Jade Treen Somatics

Jade Treen Somatics Not feeling yourself?

Perimenopause support for women ready to connect with their true self
Safety • boundaries • self compassion • healing • unmasking • Becoming whole

ACCPH Accredited Coach for Women - Basingstoke, Hampshire

Your menopause transition is an opportunity to begin again. The second spring is here. Embrace yourself, both your consc...
06/06/2026

Your menopause transition is an opportunity to begin again. The second spring is here. Embrace yourself, both your conscious self and your unconscious self, and watch yourself bloom

05/06/2026

Have you ever found yourself wondering:



“Why do I keep putting everyone else first?”



“Why can’t I say no?”



“Why do I feel like I’ve lost myself?”



For many women, the menopause transition brings these questions to the surface. What can feel like a hormonal crisis is often something deeper: the collapse of the masks we’ve worn for decades.



Heres the thing, the masks originate from your childhood.



As children, we learn quickly what gains us love, approval, safety, and belonging.



Perhaps you learned that being the “good girl” kept the peace.



Perhaps being helpful earned praise.



Perhaps staying quiet avoided conflict.



Perhaps being strong protected you from disappointment.



These adaptive strategies were intelligent responses to your environment. They helped you survive, connect, and navigate the world around you. Over time, these strategies became identities. Not just something you did, but who you believed you were.



Do any of these masks sound familiar?



The People Pleaser

Limiting belief: My needs are less important than everyone else’s.



Behaviours:

Saying yes when you want to say no
Overcommitting
Avoiding conflict
Feeling responsible for other people’s emotions


The Caregiver

Limiting belief: I am only valuable when I am helping others.



Behaviours:

Putting yourself last
Exhaustion and burnout
Difficulty receiving support
Feeling guilty when resting


The Perfectionist

Limiting belief: I must get everything right to be accepted.



Behaviours:

Self-criticism
Fear of failure
Overworking
Difficulty celebrating achievements


The Strong One

Limiting belief: I must handle everything alone.



Behaviours:

Suppressing emotions
Refusing help
Carrying excessive responsibility
Feeling isolated despite being surrounded by people


The Peacemaker

Limiting belief: Conflict is dangerous.



Behaviours:

Avoiding difficult conversations
Staying silent about your needs
Resentment building beneath the surface
Difficulty setting boundaries


The result of these masks is exhaustion, resentment, bad mood, ignoring your own needs and a nervous system on high alert. That contributes to burnouts and an inability to switch off at night as your mind races. Combined with the night sweats and hot flushes, there’s no wonder you feel you’ve lost who you were.



Throughout much of life, hormones can provide a degree of buffering that allows you to keep functioning despite chronic stress, people-pleasing, overgiving, and emotional suppression.



During menopause, however, many women find that their old coping mechanisms stop working. The energy required to maintain masks becomes increasingly difficult to sustain. What once felt manageable now feels exhausting.



The woman who always looked after everyone else suddenly feels depleted.



The woman who never spoke up finds herself becoming irritable.



The woman who always kept the peace feels angry and resentful.



This is not unusual or weird, it’s simply your system signalling that the way you’ve been living may no longer be aligned with who you truly are.



Because…



Beneath every mask is a deeper truth.



Beneath people-pleasing is a woman with needs.



Beneath perfectionism is a woman longing to be enough.



Beneath constant caregiving is a woman who deserves care too.



Beneath the strong exterior is a woman who longs to be held.



The menopause transition often initiates the process of individuation. The journey from who we learned to be into who we genuinely are. It’s the integration of your conscious self with your unconscious self. The dropping of who others expect you to be and the uncovering of your true self under all the layers.



Coming on 13th September 2026

Registration opens on 20th June 2026



Lifting the Veil: A 3-Hour Online Retreat



Join me for a powerful and nurturing online retreat designed for women navigating menopause transition, midlife, and personal transformation.



Together, we’ll explore the hidden masks many women develop in childhood—such as the people pleaser, caregiver, perfectionist, and peacemaker—and uncover the limiting beliefs that continue to shape our lives today.



Through guided reflection, somatic practices, inner child healing, journaling, and self-compassion exercises, you’ll begin to release outdated patterns, reconnect with your authentic self, and gain clarity on who you are becoming in this next chapter of life.



This is an opportunity to gently lift the veil on old conditioning, reclaim your voice, honour your needs, and reconnect with the woman beneath the roles you’ve outgrown.



A safe and supportive space for self-discovery, healing, and transformation.

05/06/2026

Have you ever found yourself wondering:



“Why do I keep putting everyone else first?”

“Why can’t I say no?”



“Why do I feel like I’ve lost myself?”



For many women, the menopause transition brings these questions to the surface. What can feel like a hormonal crisis is often something deeper: the collapse of the masks we’ve worn for decades.



Heres the thing, the masks originate from your childhood.



As children, we learn quickly what gains us love, approval, safety, and belonging.



Perhaps you learned that being the “good girl” kept the peace.



Perhaps being helpful earned praise.



Perhaps staying quiet avoided conflict.



Perhaps being strong protected you from disappointment.



These adaptive strategies were intelligent responses to your environment. They helped you survive, connect, and navigate the world around you. Over time, these strategies became identities. Not just something you did, but who you believed you were.



Do any of these masks sound familiar?



The People Pleaser

Limiting belief: My needs are less important than everyone else’s.



Behaviours:

Saying yes when you want to say no
Overcommitting
Avoiding conflict
Feeling responsible for other people’s emotions


The Caregiver

Limiting belief: I am only valuable when I am helping others.



Behaviours:

Putting yourself last
Exhaustion and burnout
Difficulty receiving support
Feeling guilty when resting


The Perfectionist

Limiting belief: I must get everything right to be accepted.



Behaviours:

Self-criticism
Fear of failure
Overworking
Difficulty celebrating achievements


The Strong One

Limiting belief: I must handle everything alone.



Behaviours:

Suppressing emotions
Refusing help
Carrying excessive responsibility
Feeling isolated despite being surrounded by people


The Peacemaker

Limiting belief: Conflict is dangerous.



Behaviours:

Avoiding difficult conversations
Staying silent about your needs
Resentment building beneath the surface
Difficulty setting boundaries


The result of these masks is exhaustion, resentment, bad mood, ignoring your own needs and a nervous system on high alert. That contributes to burnouts and an inability to switch off at night as your mind races. Combined with the night sweats and hot flushes, there’s no wonder you feel you’ve lost who you were.



Throughout much of life, hormones can provide a degree of buffering that allows you to keep functioning despite chronic stress, people-pleasing, overgiving, and emotional suppression.



During menopause, however, many women find that their old coping mechanisms stop working. The energy required to maintain masks becomes increasingly difficult to sustain. What once felt manageable now feels exhausting.



The woman who always looked after everyone else suddenly feels depleted.



The woman who never spoke up finds herself becoming irritable.



The woman who always kept the peace feels angry and resentful.



This is not unusual or weird, it’s simply your system signalling that the way you’ve been living may no longer be aligned with who you truly are.



Because…



Beneath every mask is a deeper truth.



Beneath people-pleasing is a woman with needs.


Beneath perfectionism is a woman longing to be enough.


Beneath constant caregiving is a woman who deserves care too.


Beneath the strong exterior is a woman who longs to be held.


The menopause transition often initiates the process of individuation. The journey from who we learned to be into who we genuinely are. It’s the integration of your conscious self with your unconscious self. The dropping of who others expect you to be and the uncovering of your true self under all the layers.



Coming on 13th September 2026

Lifting the Veil: A 3-Hour Online Retreat


Join me for a powerful and nurturing online retreat designed for women navigating menopause transition, midlife, and personal transformation.


Together, we’ll explore the hidden masks many women develop in childhood—such as the people pleaser, caregiver, perfectionist, and peacemaker—and uncover the limiting beliefs that continue to shape our lives today.


Through guided reflection, somatic practices, inner child healing, journaling, and self-compassion exercises, you’ll begin to release outdated patterns, reconnect with your authentic self, and gain clarity on who you are becoming in this next chapter of life.


This is an opportunity to gently lift the veil on old conditioning, reclaim your voice, honour your needs, and reconnect with the woman beneath the roles you’ve outgrown.

A safe and supportive space for self-discovery, healing, and transformation.

01/06/2026

The masks you wear originate from your childhood emotions, memories and wounds. During the menopause transition, these become more noticeable and it’s important to reconnect with your younger self to fully understand your masks.

Do you feel anxious all the time?
This is from feeling unsafe in childhood

Are you an over giver and exhausted?
This comes from feeling abandoned.

Have you got low self worth?
This comes from feeling unloved and invalidated.

Write the younger you a letter and notice what comes up.

For more information about my work:
https://linktr.ee/jadetreensomatics

There comes a point in many women’s lives where the mask simply becomes too heavy to carry. Often, this happens during m...
30/05/2026

There comes a point in many women’s lives where the mask simply becomes too heavy to carry. Often, this happens during menopause transition.

The version of ourselves that spent years coping, pleasing, performing, holding everything together, staying quiet, staying productive suddenly begin to crumble. The transition can feel frightening at first but it may actually be the beginning of something deeply honest.

The mask is the role we learned to play to feel accepted, safe, loved, needed, or successful.

For some women, it looks like:

* Being the strong one all the time
* Never asking for help
* Over-giving and people pleasing
* Hiding anger or sadness
* Constant productivity and achievement
* Pretending to cope when internally overwhelmed
* Smiling while emotionally exhausted
* Becoming who everyone else needs you to be

Many women have worn these masks for decades without even realising it but the day comes when your body says no. Wearing so many masks leaves your body in constant fight or flight mode and becomes exhausting beyond belief.

The menopause transition is not just hormonal.

It is emotional.
Psychological.
Nervous system based.
Identity defining

Many women notice:

* Increased anxiety
* Emotional sensitivity
* Rage or irritability
* Burnout
* Fatigue
* Brain fog
* Feeling disconnected from themselves
* A sudden intolerance for things they used to tolerate

You may feel there is something wrong with you but it is the body refusing to continue carrying a life that no longer feels true. The nervous system becomes less willing to suppress needs, emotions, boundaries, and exhaustion.

The mask starts slipping as the urge to live differently begins. It can feel uncomfortable but it is a powerful invitation back to yourself.

Living in constant performance mode keeps the body in stress patterns.

Over time, many women experience:

* Chronic tension
* Emotional numbness
* Difficulty resting
* Feeling unseen
* Resentment
* Loss of identity
* Deep exhaustion
* Disconnection from joy, desire, and creativity

The body often carries the burden of the unspoken self. Especially in women who spent years prioritising everyone else.

This stage of life can become more than symptom management. It can become a process of remembering who you are underneath conditioning, roles, expectations, and survival patterns.

A return to:

* Your voice
* Your boundaries
* Your truth
* Your body
* Your needs
* Your intuition
* Your authenticity

Becoming more fully yourself, your true self.

Here are a few reflections for you

* Where in my life am I still performing instead of expressing?
* What feels exhausting because it is no longer authentic?
* What emotions have I spent years suppressing?
* What would soften in my body if I no longer had to pretend?

The removal of the masks doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a journey of noticing it and that often begins the healing process.

https://linktr.ee/jadetreensomatics

26/05/2026

Letting go of your masks can be a deeply profound and transformative experience which allows you to uncover your true self and live authentically.

Here I share some ideas on how to begin your transition.

22/05/2026

Today, I really want to delve a little bit into self-doubt. And the origins of where your self-doubts is planted, so to speak.

A lot of your self-doubt will originate from your childhood, which is a time when you're developing your personality, developing your self-worth, and your motivation for the things that you love in life. Self doubt can be Placed upon you by your parents or family structures who have expectations that force you to suppress your true self. For example, Your parents may offer only conditional love by saying things such as, If you get good marks at school at the end of the year, we'll buy you this, that, or the other. They may compare you to your siblings, your friends or your cousins. You may just be asked all the time what's the matter with you? when there is nothing wrong. So self-doubt can be planted at a very early age, and it's something that we carry with us throughout life.

As women, we are many things to many people, meaning that we wear many masks. You're the daughter, the sister, the aunt, the mother, the wife, the grandmother. There are so many different masks that you are wearing throughout your life.

When you reach your menopause transition you may feel that suddenly you don't want to wear all of those masks anymore. You've got this real need to return to your true self, return to what you really want, what you really need. You want to put yourself first for a change but you're surrounded by people who expect you to continue to wear your masks. Whether that means you lower your boundaries, you're totally exhausted, irritable or unhappy. Combined with the changes of the menopause transition, this makes you self doubt and lose trust in yourself. It’s confusing and you feel you’re failing somehow but you’re not. You simply need a different way of living.

Women need to release the masks and begin to come back to ourselves. Our true selves so that some clarity and balance can return to our lives. The struggle is real but society makes no adjustments. You are expected to carry on regardless and, really, how does that make you feel?

How safe and how happy do your masks make you feel?

I would ask you to spend a little bit of time reflecting on how you can make a small change in your life, to buy back just that tiny bit of time for yourself, make yourself that little bit safer, make yourself just a bit less irritable. In menopause, hormones are up and down and you’re feeling very vulnerable so we need to create safety, balance and authenticity for ourselves. Meeting your needs when you need them is the first step to returning to your true self.

Spend a little time reflecting this weekend over the masks that you wear, and reflect on how those masks actually make you feel. Not only in your mind and emotions, but in your body. Where in your body, are you feeling those feelings?

If you're feeling vulnerable and irritated, where in your body are you feeling that?

What can you do to help loosen that up?

If that feeling was a shape, What would it be? And try to make the shape with your body, see how that feels.

If you would like to explore this further, I am holding a free workshop on the 28th of June at 10 AM. You're welcome to join me. It's online, and in this workshop, we will be exploring the heart space.

It’s about building self-compassion, internal dialogue and self trust. Something we all need to be able to stand our ground and say to people, I need to meet my needs too. I cannot be everything for everybody anymore.

If you'd like to join me, hit the link and book your space.

https://jadetreencoaching.as.me/Workshop

Menopause is a second spring which asks you to come back to your true self by losing one mask at a time.

21/05/2026

Today I invite you to reflect on the many masks you wear and the self doubt they create within you

17/05/2026

When you’re overwhelmed your body is telling you it needs a break. Try this quick fix to get yourself back into confidence and calm 💗

As you begin to embrace spring, feel the thawing of your emotional flow. Whilst you have all been recharging and hiberna...
25/02/2026

As you begin to embrace spring, feel the thawing of your emotional flow. Whilst you have all been recharging and hibernating in the depths of the winter soil, you may well have placed your emotions and needs to one side. Now is the time to come back to yourself, your emotions and your needs. If you’ve been waiting for your time, now is it.

Spring signifies the maiden era for a woman. This season is for growth, hope, joyful abundance and blooming. Even though we all carry our own maiden, perimenopause can drag her down into the depths of the autumn season you face internally. It can be difficult to cultivate that feeling of new growth and a spring in your step. These clashes of internal and external season make perimenopause even harder than it already is so I invite you to release your autumn just a little bit and reconnect with your maiden. Glow, grow and be happy 🌼

What is it that you need now that will better support you into your spring maiden transition?

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