Esta Maria Lifestyle

07/06/2026

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During the evening, Esta will be sharing simple stylist tips and tricks to help women understand which shapes, fabrics and colours work beautifully for their unique body shape and personal style.

06/06/2026

My 11th birthday party, I thought I’d reach the peak of sophistication because I had a new ring from Argos and was allowed to wear blusher 😆

On a serious note though, when I’m working with my clients on their Style, I like to look at their past pics to get a feel for their confidence levels around style and body image over the years.

It’s really insightful to look at how you felt at different times in your life and what was impacting that.

It’s strange that many people think that when they get fitter they’ll feel better in their clothes but actually it is usually more to do how they feel in the inside, this is why I work with the whole person, mental, emotional and physical.

E x

27/05/2026

Summer has been great so far, we had an amazing time in Brighton at

New gigs emerging and some still to come.

And some really exciting news of new releases.

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27/05/2026

Midlife has a way of bringing everything to the surface.

The money stuff you ignored.

The relationship patterns you tolerated.

The exhaustion you pushed through.

The parts of you you abandoned just to keep everyone else happy.

And suddenly it feels like your whole life is falling apart.

But it’s not falling apart.

Your life is asking you to finally pay attention.

Midlife is the great awakening disguised as a s**t show.

I am totally with you and here’s what I’ve learnt…

You can’t hide behind work, kids, being “busy” or pretending you’re fine anymore.

The truth gets too loud to ignore.

And healing in this season isn’t about running away, blowing your life up or blaming everyone else.

It’s about standing still.

Getting honest.

Taking responsibility.

I know because I’ve lived it.

And if you’re in the thick of your own midlife unraveling right now… you don’t have to carry it alone.

We do this together ❤️‍🔥

The butterfly transformation is the perfect container to process your midlife s**t show DM me to talk

E x

25/05/2026

25/05/2026

Growing up, your needs were often brushed aside.
Not in an intentionally harmful way.

Just little things over time.
Being told to quiet down.

To stop overreacting, not to make things harder for everyone else.

The adults around you were stressed, overwhelmed, and dealing with their own stuff, so without even noticing it, you became the helpful one who didn’t ask for much.

The one who just handled things.

And when people needed you, you showed up.

Because being needed made you feel important.

You hoped that if you could keep everyone else happy, calm, and emotionally ok, then maybe life around you would finally feel peaceful too.

As an adult, you still do the same thing.

You’re there for everyone.

You help people feel safe, comforted, and reassured however, when it comes to your own needs…
you find it hard to put yourself first.

It feels uncomfortable.
Like taking care of yourself might somehow upset the people around you.

And it’s weird because logically you know that’s not true… but emotionally your body still reacts like choosing yourself isn’t safe.

I know because I’ve been there.

I hope you can understand this, when you start supporting yourself, you begin showing up for yourself the way you wish others would…

When you stop abandoning yourself just to keep everyone else comfortable…

the guilty feeling starts to shift into a feeling of respect and self confidence.

That doesn’t hurt those around you, it inspires them.

They see you differently.

They treat you differently.

And most importantly… you start seeing yourself differently too.

This is the work we do inside

✨A Way Back To You✨
We untangle the version of you that was built around survival, people pleasing, and carrying everyone else emotionally… and we help you reconnect with the woman underneath all of that.

E x

21/05/2026

You’re always saying you never get any time to yourself…

but then when you finally do get it, you can’t relax.

You sit down for five minutes and suddenly your mind starts racing.

You look for jobs to do.
You pick your phone up.
You start tidying something that didn’t need tidying.

You fill the space until somebody needs you again.

Because slowing down feels uncomfortable.

Your body has got used to always being “on.”

Always thinking ahead.
Always anticipating everyone’s needs.

So when peace finally appears, your nervous system doesn’t automatically see it as safe.

It keeps searching for the next thing to do.

And over time, that constant state of alert starts affecting your health, your energy, your hormones, your mood, your sleep… your wellbeing.

You can’t pour from an empty cup, but so many women have trained themselves to ignore their own needs for years.

Which means learning how to relax again is actually a process.

Learning how to rest without guilt.
Learning how to be present.
Learning how to reconnect with yourself instead of only existing for everyone else.

And you deserve that too.

E x

09/05/2026

Those people you’re are a bit jealous of👇

You see their social posts and their lifestyle and you want to zoom in on the images 👀

Or you feel the need to scroll past quickly so you’re not triggered🙈

Sometimes you convince yourself that you wouldn’t want their life anyway and you look for reasons why their life is actually s**t 😆

You go back to your life and your reality and hang with the people that are in a similar situation to you, because that’s comfy and doesn’t ask anything of you.

Until the next time you get the jealous feeling🙃

These feelings aren’t a problem, they are communication.

You get the feeling because you know you are so capable of having what they have.

But then you remember what you’ve learned from the coaches and spiritual people…

Don’t compare, be grateful for what you have.

This is good advice, but don’t miss the point, the jealousy and the intrigue are actually a signpost to something you fancy having and can actually have!

Don’t ignore that. It is your soul speaking.

This isn’t about trying to keep up, or trying to be them.

It’s about understanding what is beneath those uncomfortable feeling’s.

Zooming in on yourself and doing the work for you, rather than zooming in on someone else’s life and getting pi**ed off 😆

E x

06/05/2026

Saying kids are resilient often sounds positive but in many cases it means they had to adapt early, suppress needs, or cope without enough support.

This will then tend to shape patterns that show up in adult life.

As a child:
You handled things on your own, didn’t “burden” adults, and were praised for being strong.

As an adult:
You might find it hard to ask for support, even when you need it. There can be a quiet belief of “I should be able to handle this myself.”
You may feel uncomfortable relying on others or even guilty when you do.

As a child:
You learned to stay calm, not cry, or not react, often because there wasn’t space for your emotions.

As an adult:
You may intellectualize feelings instead of feeling them, or feel “numb.”
Alternatively, emotions might build up and come out all at once because they were suppressed for so long.

As a child:
You were “mature for your age,” maybe caring for siblings or managing adult-like situations.

As an adult:
You might take on too much, feel responsible for others’ emotions, or struggle to rest.
There’s often a deep identity tied to being the capable one.

As a child:
You had to read the room, anticipate moods, or stay alert to stay safe or stable.

As an adult:
You may overthink, scan for problems, or feel anxious even when things are okay.
Relaxing can feel unfamiliar or unsafe.

As a child:
You were the strong one, the one who coped, the one others relied on.

As an adult:
Receiving care, softness, or being vulnerable might feel uncomfortable.
You may attract situations where you’re the giver, not the receiver.

As a child:
You learned to tolerate discomfort because you had no choice.

As an adult:
You might stay in relationships, jobs, or situations longer than is healthy.
Your threshold for “this isn’t okay” can be much higher than average.

Eye opener isn’t it, I’m here if you want to talk.

Esta x

05/05/2026

Growing up, you were the one that just cracked on because you learnt that help wasn’t coming.

Not because you weren’t loved, but because your parents looked busy and stressed and you didn’t want to add to their problems.

As an adult this now shows up as holding everything for everyone.

Never asking for support or not even knowing how to.

Overworking and suppressing your needs.

You’ve done this for a long time and you’ve managed really well, however now it is taking its toll on your mental and physical well-being.

Let’s talk about

Esta x