13/03/2026
Confidence is also a product of your social support
"Houston, we have a problem!"
The first people I texted when my naughty pony slammed a heavy wooden gate into my finger were my two climbing buddies. I am a bit gutted to be off climbing for a while, but I have been thinking about how important it is to climb with people who are there for you through thick and thin, wobbles and all. Rauni and Suzie are just the perfect climbing partners - we all climb around the same level but with different strengths, I can be vulnerable in front of them and they give me such confidence to experiment, make mistakes and laugh at myself. Performance wise, it's been great to see that at 51 I can still improve and have broken my boulder grade plateau this year, mostly I think due to their support, commitment and consistency. Despite our limited time, we make dates to climb and stick to it (injury and illness aside!) and we can show up in whatever state of mind or fatigue, knowing that we can find some fun stuff to work on together, turning lemons into lemonade with surprising regularity.
If you can't be yourself, tears, wobbles and all, with your climbing partner, then think about the cost to your confidence of not feeling accepted, just as you are. We can only step out of our comfort zone when we feel safe to do so, so if your belaytionships are not giving you psychological safety, maybe its time to find some new climbing pals.