11/06/2026
🙃 Okay before you come at me for this one… I know this message is well intended.
And honestly, if a child gives you a high five before going in the pool, great! Teaching children to pause, ask permission, and learn boundaries around water is absolutely valid.
But we need to be careful about the language used and the conclusions parents may take from oversimplified messages.
“Ensure your child doesn’t swim without an adult present.”
That level of certainty isn’t something a child-initiated rule can reliably provide.
My concern isn’t that children are being taught a boundary…
It’s that these types of messages can sometimes be interpreted as a system that provides a level of prevention that a young child’s behaviour cannot consistently deliver.
Research shows young children can understand and repeat instructions, but they do not consistently apply them in real situations when they are excited, distracted, or focused on something else.
That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t teach the rule. It means we shouldn’t expect the rule to protect a child.
Another concern is that messages like this can unintentionally shift responsibility onto the child to communicate risk to an adult, and may lead parents to assume their child is not in the water simply because they have successfully followed a high five rule many times before.
Young children are not responsible for managing water safety.
They are not reliable risk managers.
They are children.
A child who has been taught to wait may still run to the pool.
A child who knows the rule may still forget the rule.
A child who can repeat the rule perfectly may still not follow it in the moment.
When we focus too heavily on what a child should do, we risk shifting attention away from the layers of protection that do not depend on memory, judgement, or obedience.
So teach children to wait.
Teach boundaries.
Practise rules.
But be careful about presenting it as something that can ensure prevention of water entry.
Simple messages are easy to share.
Keeping children safe around water is far more complex than a single rule.
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