14/07/2026
When I was stuck in a so-called vicious circle in the past, when my mind was repeating the same sentences, arguments, over and over, without seeing the solution, I was actually going deeper and deeper in despair because I wanted to find a solution very badly but instead, I felt more and more stuck.
The more I tried to come up with a solution by going through the scenarios that I already went through, the less clarity I had.
But I didn’t want to ask for help, I wanted to find the way out on my own.
I couldn’t. By that time, I was already too deep in the hole.
A friend of my friend was a coach in training and he needed practice clients. I volunteered because as a coach, I had to go through similar practices.
During our sessions we talked about the topics I wanted to talk about and of course, the vicious circle came out.
He helped me. I got the clarity I needed to do the steps I needed to do and I moved out of the vicious circle.
Today, I see it as life having helped me to get out of it through that coach in training.
My learning over the years is the following:
- Sometimes I can help myself to get out of certain issues and vicious circles, esp. when I am able to step back and look at it from outside or leave it for some time and not think about it at all.
- And sometimes I simply can’t help myself because I am involved too much in the topic and I can’t see the full picture, or I see it from the same angle each and every time. That’s the time when I ask for help to get a new perspective, to ask me questions that help me to get a new perspective because very often it’s just that – a new perspective, a new angle, a new question….
How do you deal with vicious circles?
