10/09/2025
Yesterday, I celebrated my 38th birthday. I also celebrated 10 months of sobriety. I know it seems like an odd anniversary to decide to share that I have given up alcohol (it’s not one year, or one month), but that’s kind of how this whole thing has gone any way… so I think it’s appropriate. I would like to use this opportunity to share my story with alcohol.
My parents were not alcoholics. They would drink at parties and on special occasions, but they never got drunk or had any problems with control. They let us have sips of their drinks as kids… alcohol was never treated like something that needed to be avoided or worried about.
When I was 12, I snuck off with a bottle of Tequila Rose at my sister’s wedding and I had a blast! When I was 15/16 I started drinking with friends and at parties whenever we could “get a bottle”. I loved drinking. I overdid it a few times and eventually learned my lesson. I only ever got sick, not blacked out.
By the time I turned 21, alcohol had completely lost its novelty. It was just a part of life as a server and bartender. I made it almost an entire decade without having one completely sober day. I drank during work, after work and on our days off. But I still didn’t have a problem with alcohol… it was just simply the way of life. I very, very rarely got too drunk and I never blacked out. I was always in complete control.
By the time I turned 35, I had been out of the service industry for 5 years and I started realizing I didn’t like drinking anymore. I just kept doing it because I couldn’t comprehend how my life would be without it. Like, how would we see our friends and be social? Literally all we did was hang out and drink with friends.
December 8th 2024, I went out with my husband to meet friends and I had one drink. On December 11th, we went out and I had no drinks. On December 13th (a Friday night), I went out and had no drinks. It turned out, it was waaaaay easier than I thought it would be. So, I just continued not drinking and pretty soon a month passed, then two…now ten.
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