22/05/2026
If you spar Jiu Jitsu to win the round, you already lost.
Caught myself doing this yesterday with another black belt I’ve had serious wars with.
We’re both super heavyweights. If either one of us gets top position, escape is brutal. Heavy pressure. Slow cooking. Occasionally one of us catches a sub but most of the battle is a positional war of attrition.
Yesterday I stayed on top for a long time with controll and pressure.
But here’s the problem:
I was only attacking with techniques I’ve mastered.
Safe attacks.
High percentage attacks.
Low risk attacks.
I wasn’t experimenting.
I wasn’t evolving.
I wasn’t taking chances.
I was training to win the round instead of training to grow my game.
The moment I realized it, I got frustrated with myself and tapped from dominant position.
Afterward, we chopped it up. My training partner admitted he does the same thing. Even as experienced black belts, ego still sneaks into training.
Funny thing, though: What’s left to prove?
Competition is where you use your best weapons.
Training is where you build new ones.
That means risking failure.
Trying new things.
Getting swept.
Getting tapped.
Looking stupid.
Growth lives there.
Lucky to have training partners who can have those conversations honestly.
Iron sharpens iron.