21/06/2026
This is a special Father's Day message to all the new dads out there. We see you, we hear you. We love you. ❤️
If you're a new dad, can I tell you something?
That feeling of not quite knowing what you're supposed to be doing is more common than you think.
You've watched your partner carry the baby for nine months. She seems to know what every cry means. She knows how to hold the baby, soothe the baby, feed the baby. Meanwhile, you're standing there wondering, "Where exactly do I fit into all this?"
Don't worry. You fit in more than you realize.
The truth is, many fathers don't fall in love with their babies in one magical moment. For many men, the bond grows slowly through the little things: changing diapers, carrying a fussy baby at 2 a.m., assisting in giving the baby's baths, taking walks, making funny faces, and simply being there.
This Father's Day, don't measure yourself by perfection. Measure yourself by presence. Your baby does not need a perfect father. Your baby needs you just as you are, present, loving, learning, trying, and growing alongside them. The bond you are looking for is already being built in the ordinary moments. Keep showing up. One day, you will realize that those ordinary moments became the foundation of an extraordinary relationship.
So if today doesn't feel like the Father's Day adverts, that's okay.
Keep showing up.
Keep holding your baby... whether you're scared of dropping her or you think she's too tiny to be held by you, just keep holding her. You'll get there sooner than you think.
Keep praying for and blessing your baby, keep helping out, keep learning, keep loving.
One day, you'll look back and realize that the bond you were waiting to feel was quietly being built all along.
Your baby doesn't need a perfect father.
Just a present one.
Happy Father's Day to all the dads who are figuring it out one day at a time. Your presence matters more than you know. ❤️
Dr Cece Fomenky
Paediatrician
Parenting and Family Legacy Coach
CEO Kalm Parenting