12/27/2025
HERE COMES THE GUILT AGAIN.......
It is a busy season, and yes, I do have an indoor arena, but I know I am not the only person out there who begins to feel that familiar regretful feeling when I haven't been with my horse.
I often hear horse people feel bad when they do not ride or play, the footing is poor, it's too cold, or life feels full as it has for me this past few weeks. During COVID times, illustrated this to us all too clearly.
But even though I feel this myself this week, I have told students many times that horses do not keep track. They are not waiting for us to accomplish something. After all, they spend far more time with the herd than with us at the best of times...and they are fine. What is important to them is safety, comfort, and play, in that order.
When we can be with them, however, it is not the riding or ground play that makes the difference; it is our presence, our pace, our energy. Horses feel all of that far more clearly than any exercise we plan. What does matter to them thoiugh is how safe they feel when we are with them.
There are days when standing quietly, grooming slowly, or simply sharing space is far more valuable than getting in a ride or a play. Try dressing warmly on a sunny day, take a lawn chair and a cup of hot chocolate out to the paddock, and just sit. A calm human beside them offers more than a tense one on their back.
Riding or playing on the ground is something we choose. Connection is something they need. So on the days you choose not to ride, you are not letting your horse down. You may actually be offering exactly what they are asking for.
Horses remember who brings clarity and calm, not who checks the most boxes. ~jg~