What are the opening hours?

Tuesday 2pm - 6pm Friday 11am - 3pm

Livia Kenyeres Coaching

Home
Canada
Toronto, ON
Livia Kenyeres Coaching

Trauma-informed Life and Relationship Coach to help you healing your past, understanding yourself fr

I'm Livia Kenyeres, founder of Your JoYOUs Life Movement, Trauma-informed Life and Relationship Coach for introvert moms who are afraid of change but also craving for it. I'm here to support them facing their fears, moving into change with more confidence so they can create their joYOUs life on their own terms.

01/22/2026

21 years of marriage. What a profound journey it has been.

Marriage is not for the faint of heart. Unfortunately, we learn very early on that finding our “other half” will ensure our own fairytale, our own happily ever after. We are conditioned to want someone who will make us happy. But these unrealistic expectations can only set us up for pain and disappointment.

The first decade of my marriage to this wonderful man was about relearning what marriage and real partnership are truly about. Releasing my own unrealistic expectations and finding our rhythm, what works for us as a couple.
(Fun fact: rhythms change over time, and we constantly need to relearn and recreate them together.)

I believe that marriage - or any long-term romantic relationship - is the most intimate relationship we can have. Our partner will see our darkest sides, and we will see them in their most vulnerable moments.

Sometimes it feels like giving up would be easier. Choosing the person every single day whom we now know so deeply with all their imperfections is one of the most intentional choices we can make. Choosing to show up when it’s not convenient, when it would be so much easier to avoid or run away.

Yet, in all the ups and downs of a relationship, we are also given so much. We are given the opportunity to come face-to-face with parts of ourselves we might never meet otherwise. We are given the chance to heal, to grow in communication, patience, forgiveness, and so much more. One of life’s most profound gifts is to witness our partner’s life, and to be witnessed by them.

Because of Bill, I am a better person and a better mother. Not because he completes me, but because we support and inspire each other’s personal growth. I receive so much love from him still (and Patrick) every single day that I never take for granted.

Thank you for choosing me, again and again. For growing with me, for staying curious, and for walking this imperfect, meaningful journey side by side. I wouldn’t want to do this life with anyone else.

Happy Anniversary, my Love!

01/21/2024

19 years - 228 months - 6939 days... and we are still choosing each other every single day. Happy wedding anniversary, my Love!

Whether you are in a relationship or looking for one, I want you all to remember that romantic relationships are messy and nobody can do it perfectly. We bring all of our childhood and relationship histories into our current ones, so no wonder our partner can trigger us like no other and vice versa.

It’s like bringing a 1000-piece puzzle (aka your own childhood and past history with all the learned patterns, mindset, and values, etc) into the relationship where you get to experience the 1000-piece puzzle of your partner’s. Becoming intimately familiar with your own and your partner’s puzzle pieces (core wounds, triggers, vulnerabilities…) can be such a profound gift.

Learning more about someone’s vulnerabilities or parts that they don’t like about themselves doesn’t separate us but brings us closer. In my marriage with Bill, we are consciously working on accepting all of each other, even the yucky, annoying, triggering parts. Naturally, there are ups and downs, but it's all worth it. The more pieces we are aware of, feel compassion for, and heal, the easier to create our own unique puzzle together that feels good to both of us. We are allowed to leave pieces behind, to bring ones forward, or to adopt new ones. But we can only do that if we are conscious of the pieces that we bring into the relationship.

If we have the willingness to be open and grow together, our romantic relationships are such powerful places to create felt safety, where we can take small, tolerable steps toward healing, finding ourselves, and creating beautiful, fulfilling connections with our partners. This is my wish for us on our anniversary and for all of you, beautiful people.

01/14/2024

I’m very excited to share with you all that after a little (or not that little) break, my revamped website is up and running again. I’m looking forward to connecting with you over there as well. Link in bio.

09/06/2023

One of the most important skills we need to be(come) good parents/role models and to raise emotionally healthy and mentally strong children is to be able to manage our own thoughts and emotions. I know, it is way easier said than done.

Children trigger all the unhealed parts of us and bring up so much emotion, pain, trauma, and memories from our own childhood, whether we are conscious of it or not. We can love our children more than life itself, and at the same time can be triggered by them deeper than anyone in our life ever.

As parents, one of the best and most impactful things we can do for them is to work on ourselves. To parent, understand, love, and heal ourselves so we don’t pass on some of our own emotional baggage to them.

It can be one of the most challenging but also the most rewarding things you can do for yourself and your (future) children. And it’s never too late to start. Every little step counts. Every action toward emotional regulation makes a difference.

I believe in you.

05/04/2023

Yes, you read it right. According to research by The Gottman Institute, 69% of issues that couples face are unsolvable. That means that almost ¾ of relationship problems cannot be solved. More so, it is actually counterproductive to try to solve unsolvable problems.

So how do you know if an issue is solvable or unsolvable aka perpetual?

Look at solvable problems as situational problems. With healthy communication and commitment toward solving it, they can be remedied. It could be about household chores, money or stress around our work. Of course, any issue that may be solvable for one couple could be perpetual for another.

Perpetual problems are among that 69% that don’t go away despite our best efforts to solve them. These problems are mostly about differences in the couple’s personalities or their lifestyle and they just keep coming up over and over again. They could be around cleanliness, relationship style, s*x, raising children, religion, etc.

The good news is that every couple has solvable and unsolvable problems. That is very normal. But if 69% of relational issues are in the second category, that means that learning how to communicate productively, managing conflicts and our emotions when those unsolvable problems come up is way more important than eliminating problems.

I will say it again. The ability to discuss and manage conflicts and our emotions is way more important than eliminating them.

As Dr. Gottman said: “You don’t have to resolve your major marital conflicts for your marriage to thrive.”

01/29/2023

Last weekend was our 18th wedding anniversary.
People often look at us and say how lucky we are to have found each other. While we needed some kind of “luck” to meet online almost 20 years ago (living on different continents), there was definitely more work involved to get here.
We have changed so much in these last 18 years and still, we are becoming more ourselves than when we first met. We both had traumas to heal and patterns to work through, some of those we were not even aware of, but they kept coming to the surface as we settled into our relationship.
Our partnership has been giving us the opportunity to learn more about our own past and also about areas where we need to grow in the present as partners as well as parents. It has been the place for us where we can heal our relationship with ourselves and start exploring our own passions.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in the past 18 years is not wanting to run away when things get challenging. This was not something that was taught or modeled to me so I needed to learn it through my own experiences. Not “blaming” the situation or my partner but becoming responsible for my own triggers has been a long and winding journey. And while our conscious relationship can be challenging at times and takes work and commitment every single day, it is also the most beautiful place for both of us to grow, evolve, and find ourselves again. Where we can be there for each other and also for ourselves. Where we can learn, play, explore and dream together or on our own knowing that the other will have our back.
Let’s keep learning, growing and loving together. Happy Anniversary again, my Love.

01/24/2023

Here in Toronto, we’ve been having an unusually long gloomy streak without seeing the sun since the middle of December. The lack of sunshine can have an effect on all of us in many different ways such as changes in our circadian rhythm, feeling more tired, and less productive, feeling more moody or irritable, etc.
During the winter blues, I find it even more critical to stay grounded, in the present and take gentle care of myself. Cooking our favorite meals, being creative with my son, reading books, listening to music that warms my heart, and doing gentle stretching every morning… these are the things that ground and nourish me right now.
How are you taking care of yourself during the winter months? How do you connect with yourself? Let us know what works for you.

12/15/2022

When I heard the heartbreaking news of Stephen “tWitch” Boss’s passing this afternoon, I had a hard time believing it. He was such a beautiful person, full of joy, happiness, and laughter. Watching him and his wife dancing made me smile and helped me feel lighter so many times during the past few years. Their positive energy was contagious and I loved witnessing it through social media.

His decision to end his life is a painful reminder that sometimes the people with the biggest smiles can also have the darkest thoughts. Most often we have no idea what people are going through on the inside even when everything looks “perfect” on the outside. Clearly, he was suffering while most of us would have never thought this to be possible.

As a mental health advocate, I see the importance every day to normalize stigmas around mental health, debunking certain myths, and talking openly about topics such as su***de. My hope is that recommending mental health professionals will be as normal as recommending a hair stylist or a dentist in the near future.

In Canada, 11 people die by su***de every single day, and approximately 1 million each year around the world. Men are three times more likely to die by su***de than women, although women are three times more likely to attempt to end their lives.

If you are worried about someone in your life, please do not be afraid to start a conversation about su***de. Bringing it up won’t make someone more suicidal. It might provide them with a safe space to talk about their feelings. Let them know that you are there for them and you care. If they share their feelings, try to validate them and let them know they are not alone.

If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, please know that you are not alone. You are important, you are loved, and not a burden. Please reach out to someone and share your feelings and thoughts. Reach out to a family member, a friend, a counsellor, a coach, a therapist, or a crisis line.

Talk Su***de Canada: 1-833-456-4566 or text 45645
Kids Help Phone: 1-800-668-6868 or text “connect” to 686868
Hope for Wellness Help Line: 1-855-242-3310
If you or someone is in immediate danger, please call 911.

07/24/2022

We all experience discontent, dissatisfaction in our relationships. We all have complaints about certain things in our life. There is nothing wrong with that.

But there is a vicious cycle here. The more we focus on our complaints, our thoughts (about the complaint) or the very thing/person we have a complaint about, we feel more and more dissatisfied and dysregulated.

More often than not, underneath a complaint there is an unmet need. Our dissatisfaction is a wonderful clue about an important need that isn’t met at the moment.

So ask yourself “What are my complaints trying to tell me? What am I needing that I am not receiving?”

It takes time and practice to learn more about ourselves and understand what is the underlying need in a specific situation. Especially if growing up our needs were not met, we were not seen and understood, or our needs were minimized, ridiculed and we had to learn how to hide them. As a result, as adults and parents we may have difficulties knowing what our needs are, communicating them to others and finding ways to have them met (with the help of others or by ourselves).

So I invite you to start asking these questions from yourself when you feel dysregulated and see what comes up. It’s a great first step toward understanding your own needs and finding ways to get those needs met.

05/08/2022

Today I’m celebrating because of him. He launched me into the biggest, deepest, most beautiful and most challenging transformation into the person I’m meant to be.

I’m still learning and probably always will be. I’m still stumbling and making mistakes but I’m also figuring it out as we go and I’m on the right path for me and hopefully for him, too.
I’m healing, growing, and changing generational patterns through this wonderful journey called motherhood.

Thank you, Patrick for changing my life.
This journey with you is the most rewarding, most amazing one in my life and I wouldn’t change a single minute of it.
Happy Mother’s Day to me and to all the mammas out there.

01/21/2022

17 years ❤️ 6209 days ❤️ 149016 hours ❤️ and our love is still getting stronger.

As I am sitting here, looking back on our relationship, I am still amazed by the ride we’ve been on together for almost 2 decades. Thinking of all the things I never could have imagined at the time we first connected. We have had so much fun, done so much learning and growing, and battled through the difficult and painful times together.

Our relationship is one of the biggest teachers in my life. I deeply believe that relationships can offer ways and opportunities for us to discover and heal unseen parts of ourselves.

One of the big lessons I’ve learned over the 17 years is that becoming intimately familiar with our own and our partner’s core wounds and triggers can be such a profound gift. Learning more about someone’s vulnerabilities or parts that they don’t like about themselves doesn’t separate us but brings us closer. In our marriage we are consciously accepting all of each other, even the yucky, annoying, triggering parts.

My love! You see me like no one else ever has. You love me like no one else ever will. You make me laugh every day and also drive me crazy, sometimes all at the same time. Our love is the most beautiful container to love, accept and heal ourselves and each other.
Thank you for your commitment to our relationship and our little family. Thank you for your willingness and openness to grow together. Thank you for the Sunday breakfasts in bed and thank you for our morning cuddles, you are still my favourite place in the whole world.

So today I want to remind all of you, beautiful people, that love and romantic partnerships are beautifully messy and nobody can do it perfectly. If we have the willingness to be open, grow together, deeply connect to our own self and to our partner, we can create safe, fulfilling and deeply connected relationships.

Address

Toronto, ON

Opening Hours

Tuesday	2pm - 6pm
Friday	11am - 3pm

Website

http://www.liviakenyeres.com/

Alerts

Be the first to know and let us send you an email when Livia Kenyeres Coaching posts news and promotions. Your email address will not be used for any other purpose, and you can unsubscribe at any time.

Shortcuts

Featured

Inverted Equilibrium
1139 College Street

Want your business to be the top-listed Gym/sports Facility in Toronto?