Elevate with Danica, 1435 Water Street, Kelowna, BC (2026)

02/26/2021

The hardest shift for all of my clients was...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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going from constantly seeking fulfilment to acting FROM fulfilment.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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When they gave themselves permission to feel confident and fulfilled without their desired results,⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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they *somehow* achieved their goals way faster (and had a way better time doing it, too)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Your whole life you’ve lived a story of not deserving X.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“When I [insert desired achievement or circumstance here], I’ll finally feel fulfilled.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But because you’ve wired your mind to constantly withhold that feeling of wholeness, you never reach a point where it’s OK to feel it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Even when you achieve your Big Scary Goal, you come up with an excuse to set the bar even higher.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I speak from experience when I say this is a cycle that will never end until you choose to get off the hamster wheel.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Until then, that feeling of not-enoughness will continue to keep you small.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What happens when you constantly embody the story “I won’t be fulfilled until ____?”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Does that attitude say “trust me with your livelihood?”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I’ll tell you one thing.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The security of a person who doesn’t ask for permission to feel fulfilled⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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will inspire more action than even the cleverest marketing tactic.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You don't have to wait for anyone's go-ahead before you feel fulfilled.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You can flip the script. Start taking ownership now.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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DM me and I'll tell you how.

02/22/2021

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Not because I dislike self-care. It's 100% necessary for a full, abundant, and purpose-driven life.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But there are a LOT of harmful rumours going around.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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➾ self-care is self-centred⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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➾ self-care putting on a face mask, buying expensive lotion, and taking bubble baths⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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➾ self-care means abandoning all of your responsibilities because you don't feel like doing them⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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➾ self-care means it's ok to offload your commitments to others - and if they don't accept it means they don't care about your wellbeing⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Like most rumours, these statements have some partial truths⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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but the truth has been twisted into beliefs that can be harmful to you or the people around you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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In this episode of the Elevate with Danica Podcast, I sit down with , a mental health counsellor and coach to talk about the reality behind self-care (hint: it's not face masks or bubble baths).⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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She busts harmful myths and misconceptions around self-care and provides action steps on how to do it in a productive way.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If you're struggling to get out of hustle mode, or if the feelings of busyness or overwhelm are starting to wear you down, wrap yourself in something cozy and give this episode a listen.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You'll learn what self-care is (and what it isn't) and exactly how to integrate self-care practices in your life without adding more to your plate.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Let me know below — what's a rumour you used to believe that prevented you from practising self-care in your life? I'll go first.

01/29/2021

Who are you outside of your successes and failures? (save this post)
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Who are you outside of your 10k months and booked out launches?
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Who are you outside of your sleepless nights and imposter syndrome?
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Who are you outside of your fans or critics?
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If these questions are difficult to answer…
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I know why that “lost in the sauce” feeling is slowly bleeding into everything you do.
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My entire life I’ve leveraged my identity against entities completely separate from me.
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Every time a circumstance changed, my identity shifted with it.
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No matter what I achieved, I felt lost and unfulfilled.
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I had no foundation beyond my routines, my business, my relationships, my Instagram, my dreams, or my abilities.
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If you took those away, who would I be? Sometimes I’m still not sure.
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True embodiment of who you’re created to be involves intimate knowing of who she is beyond anything external.
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Make a choice — what defines you?
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Your business? Your marriage? Your kids? Your spirituality?
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For me, as long as I let my identity stories define who I was, I was trapped.
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It wasn’t until I released e v e r y t h i n g
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and let He who created me define me…
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that my truest self began to shine through.
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My identity is not in any achievement. It is not in any failure. It is not in my pride or my shame.
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Knowing who I am in Christ allowed me to know who I truly am.
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I finally knew peace.
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I challenge you to pinpoint what you’re allowing to define your identity. When you figure it out, come to the comments & see what to do about it (remember to save this post)

01/19/2021

This post might be challenging for you — and I’m not sorry for it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Are you being fully honest with yourself about what you’re here for? For a hot minute, I def wasn’t.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I believed I wanted impact. To change lives on an epic scale — and that was never not true.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But along the way, an alternative agenda slowly crept in⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I ached for the recognition, the validation. I wanted everything I did to be an instant hit and got all in my feelings when it didn’t.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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When my content + income started falling flat, I realized what’d been going on BTS⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I needed the praise because I no longer trusted myself (despite the huge success of my biz + the breakthroughs my clients have had)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I’d been entertaining the belief that I wasn’t enough — that I needed X to earn my worth.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This led to stories that I needed to go viral constantly, make 10k months, structure my biz a certain way, etc.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I held my tongue and coloured inside the lines. Put other’s opinions over my own. Became safe + likable.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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> This is the ultimate form of self-sabotage.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I lost sight of what it means to be a leader. It’s not gaining wealth or popularity to influence others⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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— it’s having the courage to forge your own path so that others are empowered to do the same.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Rather than simply acting as a leader, this requires that you become a person people want to follow.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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How? Think like a leader.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Release any story that says you need to DO anything. Create a new belief that supports who you want to be and OWN IT.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Your subconscious will play all sorts of tricks to get you to fall back in line (we call this self-sabotage). Don’t let it happen.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I designed a journal to help with this. Get it for free at the link in my bio.

01/15/2021

You’ve been approaching this all wrong.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I know you’re sliding down that shame spiral faster than a kid on a crazy carpet.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“I’m too much.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“I’m not enough.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“I make promises to myself and never follow through. Why do I even try to change?”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“I can’t even get my own life together, how’s anyone supposed to trust me to help them?”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“No one would love me if they knew who I really am / what I’ve done.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Let me ask you— if shame really worked as a motivator to become your best self, why aren’t you there already?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Truth: the idea that allowing shame to be a part of your life will make it better is a trick designed to keep you small.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Eventually it eats you alive from the inside. You become a shell of who you’re meant to be. Remind me, how's that helping?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The path to transformation doesn’t start with shame. That’s a lie.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It begins with clarity of who you are now + who you want to be.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Once I refused to be tied down by shame, I became clear on who I wanted to be.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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My motivation skyrocketed and so did my ability to keep my promises to myself. My confidence and self-trust soared.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The results? More peace of mind, more opportunities, more impact, more money, more fun.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And all because of one tiny, yet major shift.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I couldn't have done this alone, and neither can you. You need the outside perspective + accountability.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You need someone to call you out when you get stuck in your own mental drama.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This is what I do for my clients + what I'll do for you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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1x1 coaching spots are gonna go fast. Apply at the link in my bio or DM me for more info.

01/13/2021

"I just don't feel like I'm showing up with authority."
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This is the number one struggle I guide my clients through.
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If you want to counter imposter syndrome and avoid the icky "I've just been friend zoned" feeling
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you need to be comfortable with being disliked.
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You need to thrive on rejection
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because that means you're standing for something
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+ that is the core of leadership.
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I used to think being a leader meant
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> “I need to convince everyone that I’m right or no one will take me seriously” or
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> “I need to think/act the right way or no one will respect me.”
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But as I came to know + love myself more,
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and as I drew closer to Christ,
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I realized what leadership actually means:
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> "I fully own my beliefs and values regardless of what others think."
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Once I stopped caring about what people thought of me + quit trying to prove myself all the time
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my DMs were flooded with people opening up to me and asking how I did it.
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I stopped seeking my authority, and it was unveiled within me.
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When I work with clients, I guide them to this place of knowing exactly who they are and where they stand.
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Once they get there, their authority starts to come through naturally.
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They're no longer performing out of insecurity or a need to be seen.
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• They become leaders because they no longer know any other way to be. •
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I have 3 private coaching spots available; DM me for more info or go to the link in my bio.

01/11/2021

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Claiming to be able to teach others how to “unplug from the matrix” and “create your own reality,” yet repeating the same disempowering narrative you can find on any mainstream media channel — verbatim.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I'm not throwing shade on people who are confident in sharing beliefs I might disagree with. That's not my concern.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I’m talking about the “high-vibe, high-impact” entrepreneur who follows wokism like a religion + is so wrapped up in dogma that she attacks every opposing idea as [insert dismissive label here].⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The woman who still thinks it’s ok to embody the high-school plastic who can’t help but pop her bubblegum + make snarky comments at those she sees as beneath her⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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while at the same time preaching abundance, success, and enlightenment.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The disconnect here is glaringly obvious.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You think ANY of the big names you admire are going around leaving derogatory comments on posts they disagree with?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You think they’re tearing down every person in their life/audience who thinks differently than they do?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Not a chance. They’re too busy BUILDING.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Successful people don’t care about what other people are thinking, doing, or talking about.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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They don’t waste their energy debating with strangers online.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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They know there's no space for attacking, belittling, labeling, or judging at the top⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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+ making an impact has nothing to do with what others do/believe (and how wrong you think it is)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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but everything to do with how you choose to treat people regardless.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It's the people who understand that actually make a difference.

12/23/2020

Not to be dramatic, but...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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my life was changed by a fictional old man in a Christmas chick flick⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I LOVE this movie. And not just because of young Jude Law 😏⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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it's a heartwarming romance, perfect for a snowy night with hot cocoa and cookies⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But this scene hit me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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In an instant, I was so aware of the stories I was telling myself⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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> I have to work like a dog to be seen or respected⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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> Everyone else’s opinions are more valid than my own⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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> I need to give all of myself to receive love⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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> I don't deserve [blank]⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The realization hit me like a bucket of cold water —⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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— I was the secondary character in my own life!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The comic relief who makes the main character look good, but never really achieves much themselves.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I didn't know it, but I was the best friend in a classic tale called "It's Not Safe to be in the Spotlight"⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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who was the leading lady? My ego 🦐⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I'd let my beliefs keep me in a role that was below my level⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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+ once I was aware of it, I was gripped with something slightly resembling...GUMPTION!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I abandoned my role and took my spot in the limelight⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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& with that came some new lines to memorize⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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> I am worthy of attention and respect⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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> What I believe is valid and important⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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> I am loved no matter what⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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> I. DESERVE. EVERYTHING.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It gets scary. But I'll never stop bringing the 🔥⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I invite you to take a look at how you're showing up every day.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Are you acting like the leading lady or the best friend?

12/21/2020

For 10 years I lived a lie that made me miserable.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Every morning I woke up, pounded back 3 cups of coffee, and worked for 12-18 hours straight⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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when I got sick or tired, I popped some advil + shots of 5 hour energy⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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when the anxiety hit, I worked through the tears until I couldn’t take it anymore⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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wine, w**d, and doritos were my company for the night⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I told myself it would all be worth it if I worked hard and never gave up.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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^ can you spot the lie?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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2 years ago I experienced the loss of something I never even knew I wanted⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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and it broke me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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My reputation and the 5 figures in my chequing account meant nothing.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The truth came out.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I was spinning in circles & had nothing to show for it but a wrecked nervous system and broken relationships⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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so I started over⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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& let everything burn.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Quit my job. Dropped my business. Moved to a different city.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Everything changed.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Instead of working to earn wealth, respect, and love⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I decided that I already had it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The Lord gives me air to breathe and land to walk on. I never worry about it being taken away.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Why shouldn’t I have the same faith in what He’s promised me?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I still work hard.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But now I prioritize relaxation, fun, and abundance⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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& still built new a biz + a new life that I truly love.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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More details about how I do this in the VIP newsletter going out this week.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Head to my stories to get on the list.

11/30/2020

It’s not about me.
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Really, it’s not.
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After a lifetime of feeling like I wasn’t supposed to speak, it took me a minute to learn how.
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I used to be so obsessed with broadcasting my thoughts about everything & convincing people to see things my way
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I created conflict when I didn’t need to
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because I believed the lie that if I wasn’t right all the time, then I didn’t deserve to use my voice.
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Over time, I came to realize that how I feel personally couldn’t be more irrelevant
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What matters is that I use my voice to free others
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What matters is that I use my voice to build others up
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What matters is the truth, and that I am doing my best to seek it out and stand up for it
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& I don’t do that by being quiet or agreeable
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When I speak boldly and truthfully, I give others permission to do the same.
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Becoming a godly woman does not mean stand by and be quiet. It also doesn’t mean always needing to be right.
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Proverbs 31 describes a strong women as one who elegantly speaks her mind - “She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” (verse 26)
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I get messages from people every day saying that listening to me gave them the power they needed to finally speak their truth
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It reminds me that this isn’t about me. Not at all.
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It’s about them and the people they will impact. And the ripple effect that will have for generations.
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It’s not about me — but it starts with me.
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And it starts with you.
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Now’s not the time to be quiet. Your job isn’t to be liked. It’s to stand up for what you know is right. Speak out & start having the impact you’re meant to have.
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✌🏻

11/18/2020

After an entire lifetime of being the good girl⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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the “old soul”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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the one who never ruffled feathers⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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or made waves⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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one day, I had enough.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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My body couldn’t store any more of the words I’d choked down⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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and so I started speaking out⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I didn’t give a second thought to politeness or gentleness⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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(that wasn’t entirely good, but that’s a story for another time)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“This wasn’t supposed to have sugar in it.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“I’m tired. I think I’d rather go home.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“I disagree.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“I think I deserve to get paid more than what you’re offering.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“Actually, here’s what I really think.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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With every word, my soul sang louder.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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My walls fell away⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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and for the first tome I connected with myself, with God + with everyone around me in a real way. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I stopped being afraid to ask for what I wanted⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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and so I started getting more of what I wanted.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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That’s how I...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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> landed my dreamy boyfriend (now dreamy husband)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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> negotiated a $5k salary increase at my last job⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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> built a successful biz + a schedule that allows me to relax and have fun⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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> bought all the cool tech toys I wanted⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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> spent a week in Maui for just under $2.5k⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I realized I had the power to speak it into existence.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Who knew I’d be a person who speaks loudly and unapologetically and lives freely and abundantly, without fear of what others think? Who leads with passion and boldness and grace?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Certainly not the me from 3 years ago.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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How did it feel when you spoke out for the first time? Do you remember?

11/04/2020

Use your breath to release feelings of anxiety, fear, and overwhelm in just one minute.

1 hand on your chest. 1 hand on your belly. Eyes closed.

Take deep breaths, focusing on expanding into your belly.

Repeat after me:

> Fear has no home here.

> Anxiousness has no home here.

> I am in control of my reality.

> I get to decide how I feel.

> I feel safe. I feel loved. I feel supported.

Drop into your body. As you breathe, allow yourself to feeeeeel the fear, grief, and anxiety. Love them. Validate them. Thank them. And let them know it’s ok for them to go.

After about 30 breaths, inhale as deeply as you can.

Hold for as long as it feels good.

Then, exhale. Completely empty your lungs.

Release the emotions that no longer serve you.

Hold space for peace to come in. For joy to take root. For gratitude to fill you up.

Smile. Give yourself a hug.

You got this, my dear. You’ll be ok.

Just breathe.

SAVE for later & SHARE because today’s a stressful day for lots of people & your friends could probably use it.

Elevate with Danica

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