Olive von Topp

Olive von Topp Empowerment Coach & Burlesque Performer

www.olivevontopp.com

08/31/2026

Back with more tips. Bonus points if you also exist as a trans, q***r, fat, disabled, or woman of colour. That really makes em mad

08/29/2026

Reposting an oldie bc it resonated with so many of you.

What do you say when people ask how you are?

08/20/2026

Since my last video ruffled a few feathers...I thought Id make a series!

Put your tips in the comments and I'll make them into a video.

08/19/2026

Turns out, the very act of just living a life that ia true to you, angers Patriarchy, regardless of your gender.

Oh I can already envision the BS comments Im gonna get on this one 😝

Some ways to p*ss off the Patriarchy:

1. Make relationships on your own terms
2. Do and wear things that make you happy
3. Do what you want with your body
4. Make a life and career out of helping others do the same
5. Enjoy your own company and treat yourself lovingly

Let's share ideas. I'd love to hear what you do (or want to do)

08/11/2026

Your biggest insecurity is someone's biggest turn on.

Just remember that.

And the Patriarchy wants you to hate yourself so you stay small and are too weak and preoccupied to rage against the powers that be.

Loving yourself is political. Especially if youre in a body that has been told it is wrong (eg. Non-white, disabled, trans, fat, q***r, etc).

Be gentle with yourself (and each other) out there.

Love you

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08/10/2026

The body knows. Even when you dont. She wise.

That's why it can be so so helpful to work with the body and nervous system in your healing journey.

Above all, be gentle with yourself.

Grief is kinda chicIf youre looking for support in process, including somatics and ritual/honouring, send me a DM and we...
08/08/2026

Grief is kinda chic

If youre looking for support in process, including somatics and ritual/honouring, send me a DM and we can chat about how I can support you

08/07/2026

There's a difference.

Your capacity is shot. Your nervous system is just surviving. So that is what all your energy is going to.

Things that used to seem easy, arent anymore.

Everything requires like 10x the effort.

This can look like:
* staring at a simple task for hours
* rereading the same sentence 10 times
* forgetting everything
* feeling exhausted after doing almost nothing
* cancelling plans because being perceived feels overwhelming
* struggling to answer texts
* losing motivation for things you used to care about

But that is grief. Not laziness.

It can feel extra tricky when youre out of the acute grieving phase. Maybe youre slowly able to more things. Youre having a few good days.

You think you're on the way back to being the old you.

The one who got stuff done
Who could multi task
And hold a million things in your brain

And now you just cant.

This is especially hard for all you high functioning grievers- particularly women who used to do it all.

Especially if you were taught to be “the strong one.”
Especially if you learned your worth came from how much you could do for everyone else.

Grief slows us down on purpose.
It asks us to stop performing.
To feel.
To unravel.
To become honest.

You are not broken because you cannot function the way you used to.

The version of you that existed before the loss may not come back. She is gone.

But that doesn’t mean there isn’t life, joy, softness, truth, and aliveness (and even increased capacity) waiting for you on the other side of this becoming.

It just takes time

Youre doing a lot.

Be gentle with yourself today.

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