06/03/2026
The urge to quit.
I think people don’t talk about it often enough, but amateurs and professionals alike have all been there.
Those times when it feels like everything goes wrong.
You lose a horse. A horse gets hurt. The horse show goes terribly. Training feels stuck. Bills pile up.
You start questioning your goals, your decisions, and sometimes whether you’re even enjoying this in the first place.
From the outside, horse people often look incredibly resilient.
What I think is actually true is that most of us have simply had to make peace with the fact that horses will eventually break our hearts a little.
Things will go wrong, plans will change, progress will stall, there will be unenjoyable chapters …
There will absolutely be days where quitting sounds like the most rational option available.
But I think many equestrians can relate to the fact that our love of horses is not based in logic or rationality. It is woven so deeply into who we are that it becomes part of our identity.
So we learn not to make permanent decisions based on temporary frustration.
Instead, we take a breath, survive the rough patch, have a little cry, pay another vet bill, and keep putting one foot in front of the other.
The urge to quit is probably a more normal part of the journey than most people admit.
Thankfully, so is finding a reason to keep going.