Helena Zebian

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Helena Zebian

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Owner Gelous Spa ✦
Holistic Healer helping women 40+ release years of stress, pain + emotions held in the body
Somatic RMT • Inner Child • Nervous System

Massage Business Mentor helping you make more money working less hours & avoiding burnout. Anti-Aging Specialist & Stress/Anxiety RMT - Ladies 30+

10/30/2026

Anyone else 😂

10/28/2026

Remember growing up hearing things like…

“Stop crying”
“Don’t be so dramatic”
“Don’t answer back”
“Go to your room until you’ve calmed down”

And my personal favourite…
“I’ll give you something to cry about”

Looking back, it’s quite interesting how many of us grew up believing that showing certain emotions was bad.

If we were angry, we were being naughty.
If we cried, we were being dramatic.
If we spoke up, we were answering back.

I’m not saying our parents were terrible. Most were simply parenting the way THEY had been taught.

But think about what some of us learned.

We learned it wasn’t safe to cry, that we had to hide our anger, keep the peace and pretend everything was ok.

And now here we are in our 40s and 50s, wondering why we struggle to speak up, set boundaries or even explain how we’re feeling or feel ok showing emotion.

Something I’ve noticed working with hundreds of women over the last 2 decades is just how of them are so used to holding everything together and now as adults they find it difficult to truly switch off.

They’re the strong ones. The ones everyone relies on. The ones who say they’re fine, even when they’re absolutely exhausted.

And sometimes, having time 60 or 90 minutes where nobody needs anything from them leaves them feeling full of guilt.

Here’s something I wish more women over 40 understood.

There’s a big difference between learning how to regulate your emotions and learning that showing your emotions isn’t safe.

Because just because you learned to hide your feelings doesn’t mean you stopped having them.

And perhaps part of growing older is finally giving ourselves permission to feel the things we were once told to keep quiet about.

And if you’re ready to stop putting yourself at the bottom of the list, perhaps it’s time to give yourself permission to receive a little care for once.

My treatment room in Calgary is always here when you’re ready.

Just comment YES below or head to my bio to book directly.

Are you ready to retire your inner good girl?

Helena xo

10/21/2026

I’m genuinely confused, and perhaps someone can chime in the comments below 👇

Why does voting YES to the immigration questions in Alberta’s referendum automatically mean immigrants should feel unsafe or unwanted here?

I moved to Canada from England over 27 years ago, when things were quite different.

Back then, immigration came with rules. There were requirements to meet, and not everyone was entitled to the same benefits the minute they arrived.

And I don’t remember thinking that made me unwelcome in any way. It was a requirement because it was best for CANADA.

The majority voted YES to Alberta having more say over immigration numbers and putting Albertans first when it comes to jobs. I remember the points system being a big part of immigration. Does that still exist? And are we genuinely struggling to fill jobs with Canadians? I’ve seen plenty of teenagers in Calgary struggling to find their first job, so you tell me what's going on here?

The majority voted YES to reasonable fees for health care and education for people with temporary immigration status.

Fair since we have a health care system under HUGE pressure. Is it really unreasonable to ask people who are here temporarily to contribute towards the services they use, while they work towards making Canada their permanent home? However, I just learned since posting this reel that those on temporary visas are brought here BY the government, but are not able to apply for PR status until they have enough points and you know what that means... having to return to school (which for most means getting loans which means yep, loans and banks). Shocking.

I don’t think it’s fair to assume that everyone who voted YES did so because they’re racist or don’t want immigrants here. Many of us ARE immigrants, me included.

We came here, built lives, worked, paid taxes, raised families and made Alberta our home. We can welcome immigrants, appreciate what they bring to this province, and still believe we need immigration policies that our province can manage, but how about we start by not bringing them here if they can't even be given a fair opportunity here. Oh yeah. I forgot...house always wins right?

10/19/2026

Everyone else is pretending so why not join in 😂

10/14/2026

If you do any of these things, there may be a reason you’ve never connected before…

Overthinking
People pleasing
Never asking for help
Always worrying
Needing to be in control
Can’t to say no
Feeling guilty for resting
Always expecting something to go wrong
Putting everyone else first

In my deeper root sessions with clients, I don’t dig into WHAT you’re doing.

I’m interested in WHY your subconscious learned you needed to do it in the first place.

Because sometimes what we think it just our “personality” is actually a pattern or program we learned a very long time ago.

Once you start getting curious about why the pattern is there, you may begin to see yourself (and others around you a little differently).

I created a simple 1 Minute Pattern Decoder to help you take one pattern - overthinking, people pleasing, needing control, struggling to say no and explore exactly what might be sitting underneath it.

Drop the word PATTERN below and I’ll send it to you or DM me if you prefer.

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Calgary, AB

Website

https://www.gelousspa.ca/

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