01/15/2021
You don't have control over every aspect of your life, but you do have control over who you surround yourself with!
In fact, one of the biggest predictors of your life is the 5 people you spend the most time with.
Think about it even in your own life....
I know for me, when I used to hang around people who partied more, drank more, at more crap....I did more of those things too.
If the people that you surround yourself with are not lifting you up, encouraging you, believing in you, and helping you, why are you spending time with them?
Hell, this may even be family members!!
So, you have 2 options:
1. Eliminate them from your life
This does not mean you need to go send them a text and say, "I am sorry but you are no good for me. You do nothing but bring me down so I am going to have to eliminate you from my social sphere. This will be the end, goodbye"
No, just stopping texting them.
When they reach out to you and say, let's go for a drink, respond with "sorry I can't tonight"
After doing that a few times, you will be amazed at how quickly they stopping texting you. (probably another good indicator they are not in the relationship for you).
2. Modify the relationship
We don't necessarily want to just cut everyone from our lives...especially if the people bringing us down is our own family.
But that also doesn't mean that we have to accept defeat and tolerate them tearing us apart.
Instead, control the situation more.
If you have a friend that always wants you to go out drinking. Instead, invite them to go for coffee.
If you have a father that always belittles you when it is just the 2 of you, then only get together at big family functions or go for dinner at a public restaurant.
YOU HAVE PERMISSION TO CUT PEOPLE FROM YOUR LIFE.
IT IS YOUR LIFE!
STOPPING LIVING IT BY OTHER PEOPLES STANDARDS.