29/05/2026
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I’m very sure you’re gonna resonate with what I’m about to share ‘cause high chances that you’re still stuck in one of the first two phases….
1. I was actually aware of my patterns…
I knew that I was overgiving, that my boundaries were almost non-existent, that I was compromising my self-respect to avoid conflict, I was complaining a lot or that I was procrastinating.
Anddddd I knew I was somehow using all of these as excuses to not come out of my comfort zone.
The awareness was there.
But acceptance wasn’t.
Because acceptance would mean sitting with all these emotions of shame, guilt, hurt and anger.
2. Then came a phase of what I now call “pseudo-acceptance”.
I would say, “Yeah, I’m just like that” (main toh aisi hi hoon)
but it was more of a mask than real acceptance.
A way to avoid truly facing my mistakes or sitting with my shame honestly.
3. But now, I’ve entered a different phase.
One that’s rooted in real acceptance and forgiveness.
I’ve realized I cannot change what happened in the past.
But I can accept it.
I can accept my mistakes.
I can accept my younger self as she was.
And most importantly, I can FORGIVE her.
For not knowing better.
For doing what she thought was right at the time.
And it doesn’t stop at forgiveness.
It continues with learning from it.
And actually applying those lessons in the present.
So my present + future can feel lighter, clearer and more aligned than my past ever did.
leme know in the comments which phase are you in currently?
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