21/06/2026
FATHERHOOD.....THANK YOU PAPA😍👴🏾👩🏾🦲
A woman's father is her first contact with the male gender. Ditloga hela ha thaema e seo in a childs formative years, that absence already distorts a woman's perception of men on a subconscious level. As the girl grows up, she meets other male figures, uncles, relatives, teachers and pastors le diboyfriend. If the father is not present from day one, ngwana o ithuta gore monna ke eng mo strateng. Your father sets the tone on a subconscious level on how you are going to relate with men in the future🤔. So if all you've experienced is an absent father, an uncle who abused you, male teachers ba ba go phoshang, pastors who use you.....gents then why are we suprised gore Feminism ee bogale jaana exists🤔. Fatherslessness e tsisa sehihi to a childs life because ditloga hela, thaema e ne e seo to cushion ngwana le go mo ruta a true representation of what a man is🤔!
I have had the privilege of knowing this man Ive called my father for 42 years of my life, he died in 2022. My father gave me my identity le seriti. It is his interactions with me that built my self worth. If theres one thing I can tell you about women who grew up with solid grounded fathers its this, these women dont need validation from men or anyone else for that matter, our fathers fueled our self-esteem! When we choose men we are looking for qualities far greater than the ability to provide shem.....truth be told, our fathers taught us to be street smart, le gore mosadi wa itirela, you dont wait on men to finance your lifestyle , you BUILD WITH A MAN WHO HAS A VISION and you leave a LEGACY. Papa taught me gore baby mama culture is unacceptable through:
1) Making an honest woman of my mother when he married her. By doing that, Papa was teaching me on a subconscious level gore mosadi wa nyalwa, she doesnt raise babies alone, for me that has always been clear! Marry Before You Carry! And if you dont get married sit ya ngwana out my girl...that is not your path. Dont be out here helping God o tshola an Ishmael! Ijo....bala Bible mmaetsho!
2) My father would sit with me and school me on how men think! The biggest lesson was " O tle o tshameke mo le bashimanya o ba tlogela ba go ithwadisa, o tla ipona, no man wants to raise another mans child, this is why go na le selo se se bitswang DAMAGE....re ne re duelela go senyetsa ngwana wa mosetsana botshelo because we all knew that it would be difficult for that young girl to find a step-dad for ngwana, so Nono ngwanaka, BE RESPONSIBLE" I was 18 at the time, ke bala Form 5 ko Mater Spei, the following year, I would be going for National Service....TIRELO SECHABA. It was a lot to take in but because in our home honesty was a value, I knew to listen to my father!
Do you know that ke gola ke nna 42 and my father has never laid his hands on me. Nna kana mama was the one who used to belt me🤣. Papa used to just say one word and give me that face and id fall in line😅! From that I learned that leadership from a man ga se kgang ya go betsa mosadi kana go kgokgontsha babereki, leadership ke your Masculine aura that has the power to make people submit ka go ba fa lehoko eseng go ba thuba ka dimpama. But in order for people to listen to you, you yourself have to be a man wa boleng, o ikaga, o ikitse, o na le kelello ee kogodimo o na le seriti o le solid in your convictions.....very few men have that today🤔.
I once had a heart to heart with Papa, in my mid 30s. My dad was always seen as an elder ko kanye. One day he took me with him, to one of the cultural proceedings. That night we sat around the fire and did our usual, we had " Honest Conversations around the fire" That was our time to reflect. Theres just something about sitting around the fire, it just causes one to reflect🤔. Nna kana thats what I miss about my dad the most...his honest company. Maranyane a nthutile gore mo Botswana mo, batho ba rutilwe go rata maaka, while rona re ne re rutiwa go bua nnete, thats why I go viral beke le beke😅 .....ke mathata! That night I asked my dad this question " Papa would you be disappointed if I didnt get married" Papa smiled on some " Nono ngwanaka, botshelo ke jwa gago. O motona I cant tell you how to be, ebile ha go nyalwe nyalwe hela. Your mother passed away in 2002, and to date i still wear my wedding ring. You marry values eseng motho, ebile go thata to meet someone with strong values..." So my point is, why would I allow random people on social media kana mo strateng to put pressure on me go nyalwa when my father had no issues with it🤔. Women talk about society putting pressure on them to marry.....and I laugh kere nyaa that only happens if your dad wasn't there to give you sound advice on marriage, let alone cultivate your Self Worth🤔! To be honest I think my father would have been more disappointed in me if I had had a child out of wedlock than me not getting married🤞🏽. But its funny how we live in a society today that encourages what seasoned men with families discouraged.....how twisted is that🤔? When fathers are not in the home emotions override logic🤔! Tota Botswana is no longer a country, ke kwa ga mmapereko🤷🏽♀️😅!
Happy Heavenly Fathers Day to my dad. Tota the only thing I owe you dad is to live a life worthy of being called an Atlholang. Nothing more nothing less.To all the great dads out there, we see you, we love you and we appreciate you. Great Job Gentlemen👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Happy Fathers Day bo Daddy😘. Nna kea lo rata shem😘
LOVE ALWAYS
AUNTY OF THE NATION🥰
