Candoathlete - training for female cyclists

19/09/2024

"𝐢𝐭'𝐬 𝐟𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐢𝐭'𝐬 𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐞 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐝 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐟𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨𝐨⁣
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Be my authentic self, speak my thoughts, be true to myself and my word, be present, not stuck in my⁣
head, feel and listen to my feelings. Stop fooling myself and identifying myself with this tiny little bit⁣
called brain.⁣
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I feel scary, hopeless. It's eating me alive.⁣"
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These were my very own words! ⁣
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Reading back an intake form of the most amazing coach Bia Bliss who got me on the path of actually feeling my body.⁣
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Can you feel the pain, the struggle the "somebody please help me?!" ⁣
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Things have changed a lot since then! I've been confronting my fears, my doubts, my struggles.⁣
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Is my life now pure bliss and worry free? ⁣
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Surely not! Though I am becoming a master in searching for the lesson and bliss in every uncomfortable event.⁣
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Liberating myself from my own, self-told (and imposed) stories.⁣
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It's about learning to be honest with yourself. Owning your responsibility and owning the fact that you do have a choice, every second again.⁣
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How's your life? Thriving? Going in the direction you want? ⁣
Or is it rather "mwah - I'm in a golden cage"
or maybe: "my life downright sucks!"⁣
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If you want to discover your choices, shine light on what's holding you back. I'm here to help. No strings attached.⁣
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The first step is yours to take, reach out.⁣
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18/09/2024

I've created an e-book about why setting boundaries is not enough.

We've all said no a million times at least throughout our lives. Expressing no is not the problem.

Then what is, and why?

Looking for feedback and reviews on my e-book before it goes really out in the wild.

Who wants a copy to provide me with feedback and a review?

Reply with copy or a DM and I'll send it over to you.

13/09/2024

𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧'𝐭 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐛𝐮𝐥𝐥𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐭, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝𝐧'𝐭 𝐛𝐞 𝐫𝐮𝐧𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬⁣
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“Your approach is quite confrontational.”⁣
“Yes” I reply “I'm happy to believe that it hits home. Don't your figures, or rather non-figures, hit home that hard?”⁣
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A startled face looks back at me, not knowing what to answer now.⁣
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He can now go sit in a corner and curse at my brutal but loving confrontation with his own bu****it. ⁣
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In the meantime, he has no revenue, apart from some pocket money, he can't pay off his loan and he can't feed his children.⁣
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If you are unable to look at your own bu****it, then stay employed. ⁣
Because reality will catch up with you sooner or later.⁣
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Whether this is about a starting entrepreneur or an "established entrepreneur", my opinion remains the same. Only then it's about different figures or perhaps about your relationship.⁣
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As an entrepreneur, you are extra confronted with your own bu****it. ⁣
And you can't avoid it, you can't deny it. When you deny it, sooner or later it will hit you hard.⁣
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For one it is a heart attack, a burnout, for the other a divorce or bankruptcy.⁣
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You actually only have 2 choices: Face your own bu****it or wait for the consequences that come your way⁣
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It is a choice, just like vanilla ice cream or stratiatella ice cream.⁣
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If you are ready to face your bu****it and also take effective steps, I love to make time for a free coaching call. ⁣
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When get to the bottom of what you have been struggling with for so many years and it clicks, then you are also prepared to take steps and make a change.⁣
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Otherwise, you can better read a book or ask chat-gpt for some advice.⁣
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What do you think, keep messing around or ready for a drastic change, and earthquake?⁣
Send me a DM if you need an earthquake!⁣

11/09/2024

𝐍𝐨, 𝐈 𝐝𝐢𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐞 𝐝𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐡.⁣⁣
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No, I’ve had the most beautiful youth.⁣⁣
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My brothers and sisters were 9 years older than me. Though they’ve always taken care of me. They made sure I got a scooter, I could go out. ⁣⁣
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I can’t say I had a rough youth. I’ve heard other stories, abuse, violence, I didn't encounter any of that!⁣⁣
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Yet, there is something bothering her, blocking her. ⁣⁣
She knows it, she can’t access it. We continue to talk and this brings up the event where her husband cheated on her, years ago.⁣⁣
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Emotions come up, that’s the sign!⁣⁣
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Just like some plants, limiting beliefs have long long roots underground. ⁣⁣
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Connecting seemingly impossible things with each other.⁣⁣
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Her husband cheating on her has nothing to do with her husband (that is, from her point of view). ⁣⁣
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It “𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐝” as a reflection, an opportunity for her to have a choice, do you want to continue ignoring this emotion, this belief or do you want to face it.⁣⁣
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Back then, she ignored it, she didn’t know any better. ⁣⁣
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𝐎𝐧𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐫𝐚𝐬𝐡 𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲, 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲,𝐩𝐡𝐲𝐬𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐟𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝟐𝟎 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐬𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟!⁣⁣
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Being highly skilled, she got fired from her position because of her crash!⁣⁣
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We needed to push through - she agreed. ⁣⁣
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On surface level, her problem was solved, she recovered from her crash. But we didn’t eradicate the root of it.⁣⁣
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We had to go around the world and back, like 10 times, in order to bring this belief and these emotions to the surface. She didn’t want to allow herself to go there at first.⁣⁣
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Would you believe it tied back down to her grand-grand-grandmother being on her own, responsible for her family in the world war?! ⁣⁣
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That strong, fear based belief, was passed on for generations. ⁣⁣
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Not feeling enough, fear of being alone, the need to take care of others, no room to do what you need, believing she’s not beautiful enough!⁣⁣
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Clearing that historic belief brought her the most amazing insights. ⁣⁣
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Things like I’m balanced, I’m beautiful in my power, I’m like a volcano ready to erupt. She felt calm, balanced, and happy afterwards.⁣⁣
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You can’t push through that on your own. Nor can you bring that up on your own. You can only crash yourself on your own though.⁣⁣
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It happens quite frequently. I’m talking to a client, nothing is really coming up. Then a slight hint comes up. That hint turns, after some digging, into a big big belief ready to be liberated.⁣⁣
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So when you’re ready to find your patterns, beliefs that are stopping you, holding you back. Reply or send me a DM. I’m here to help as best as I can.⁣⁣

09/09/2024

𝐈 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐝𝐞 𝐦𝐲 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐬𝐨 𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐲 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐢𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐈 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐞𝐮𝐫𝐨𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐭 𝐭𝐨𝐨.⁣
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Assertiveness training, inner child work, setting boundaries, increasing frequency, you name it.⁣
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The problem is not that they don't work. The problem is that they DO WORK in the short term.⁣
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In the long term, they cause even more damage than they wanted to solve.⁣
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Take setting boundaries as an example. Then you learn to say no, then you learn about consequences, being decisive, knowing what you want, not deviating from your path.⁣
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The awful thing is that it works, especially in the beginning.⁣
UNTIL it doesn't work anymore and that moment is guaranteed to come.⁣
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Then the misery begins, because then you confirm: "I can't set boundaries.⁣
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Look, I have invested a lot of time, money and energy in it and it doesn't give me anything, I still can't do it"⁣
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You confirm, you strengthen your belief: "I can't set boundaries"⁣
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Actually, setting boundaries comes naturally, you don't need a workshop for that. When you get closer to yourself, you will automatically know what is acceptable to you and what is not. ⁣
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Then you will automatically be able to connect consequences to not respecting your boundaries without attaching a meaning about yourself to the reaction of the other.⁣
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𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞, 𝐒𝐓𝐎𝐏 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐜𝐮𝐭𝐬. ⁣
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The only real shortcut is to look at what you unconsciously believe, tell about and to yourself, emotions that you are not allowing yourself to feel.⁣
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If you now think that you had a beautiful childhood, without problems or resistance. Someone just like that was sitting on my couch this morning. ⁣
And what a powerful POWER was ultimately buried under those limiting beliefs and emotions that she was not allowing herself to feel.⁣
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If you know what is going on, you at least have a choice about what to do with it. ⁣
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That is exactly what I do during my free coaching call. Search for patterns. If that comes up, you at least have a choice.⁣
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𝐀𝐧𝐬𝐰𝐞𝐫 #𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐢𝐜𝐞 or send me a DM if you want a free coaching call.⁣ ⁣
𝐀𝐧𝐬𝐰𝐞𝐫 #𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭 if you choose to stay at the side of things⁣
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Not answering is choosing for blissful ignorance and victimhood. Just saying...

19/08/2024

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14/08/2024

𝐐𝐮𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐧𝐨𝐨𝐳𝐞 𝐕𝐬 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐚𝐰 𝐨𝐟 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐟 𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐲⁣
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You WILL keep your misery, that’s the law, the law of conservation of misery. The only question is, where do you put your misery, that’s your choice.⁣
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We heard that phrase over and over from our digital electronics 🤖🤖 professor, back in the days. ⁣
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It meant that we could make certain choices in our designs and with those choices we’d determine where our challenges would arise.⁣
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Do you choose a spot where the challenge is easy to detect and fix if it arises? It’s usually the spot that requires a bit more preparation.⁣
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Or do you go for the quick win and when the s**t hits the fan, well, you’re chin-deep in it.⁣
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𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭. ⁣
⏰ Let’s take waking up as an example. Unless you are a natural born early bird, it’s your first confrontation of the day, with yourself.⁣
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Do you hit snooze and avoid the confrontation, or do you get out and face the confrontation?⁣
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In both cases, misery is still there. Though when you get up, you confront the misery, solve it. That puts you in a position of strength, self confidence to tackle other confrontations during the day.⁣
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When you hit snooze, you avoid the confrontation. Setting yourself up for more confrontation avoidance during the day. Not just with yourself but also with others. ⁣
𝐈𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐧, 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐥𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐫 𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐫.⁣
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Know that without transformation, your subconscious mind will always choose the snooze and the pile of s**t instead of the short pain. And you’ll never be able to overpower that with your conscious brain without major cost somehow.⁣
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Now my dog is 👑 queen of snooze & cuddles 👑 in the morning. It’s not only my subconscious brain I’m confronting, also this queen!⁣
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𝐌𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐯𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞, 𝐯𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐩 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐢𝐜𝐞 where you put your misery. ⁣
Shine a light and bring understanding.⁣
I’ve written an e-book explaining how the subconscious controls our lives. ̲⁣
🐊 𝙲̲̲𝚛̲̲𝚘̲̲𝚌̲̲𝚘̲̲𝚍̲̲𝚒̲̲𝚕̲̲𝚎̲̲𝚜̲ ̲𝚒̲̲𝚗̲̲𝚌̲̲𝚕̲̲𝚞̲̲𝚍̲̲𝚎̲̲𝚍̲! 🐊⁣
Interested? ⁣
Reply with or send me a DM.⁣
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08/08/2024

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07/08/2024

😲 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭 😲⁣
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"Nobody showed up! What a disappointment! I’ve been sitting there, all by myself."⁣
He's clearly disappointed.⁣

Ok, though, you only advertised the opening of your bar a day upfront. What did you expect?⁣
People coming over, having a drink, having a good time.⁣
So, you expect that you advertise, out of the blue: bar’s open and people show up at your place and have a drink? ⁣
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😵 𝐘𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐚 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠! 😵⁣
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"A good thing?"⁣
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Yes, a good thing. When you mess up, do something clumsy, unfortunate, dumb, you’re not important either. Granted, most people have a bias towards negativity and mocking other people. So your clumsy event might get a little more attention than your positive event. There just as well, you’re not important. 😮‍💨⁣
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̲𝚈̲̲𝚘̲̲𝚞̲ ̲𝚊̲̲𝚛̲̲𝚎̲ ̲𝚝̲̲𝚑̲̲𝚎̲ ̲𝚘̲̲𝚗̲̲𝚕̲̲𝚢̲ ̲𝚘̲̲𝚗̲̲𝚎̲ ̲𝚖̲̲𝚊̲̲𝚔̲̲𝚒̲̲𝚗̲̲𝚐̲ ̲𝚢̲̲𝚘̲̲𝚞̲̲𝚛̲̲𝚜̲̲𝚎̲̲𝚕̲̲𝚏̲ ̲𝚒̲̲𝚖̲̲𝚙̲̲𝚘̲̲𝚛̲̲𝚝̲̲𝚊̲̲𝚗̲̲𝚝̲.
You are the one expecting everybody to drop all of their plans to show up at your bar. ⁣
Just as you are the one making your own fck-up important. Nobody cares but you.⁣
⚖️ 𝔜𝔬𝔲 𝔥𝔞𝔳𝔢 𝔞 𝔠𝔥𝔬𝔦𝔠𝔢, 𝔦𝔣 𝔶𝔬𝔲 𝔠𝔥𝔬𝔬𝔰𝔢 𝔱𝔬 𝔪𝔞𝔨𝔢 𝔦𝔱 ⚖️⁣
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What did you have for breakfast today, if you had any? That as well is a choice. Either by routine, autopilot, or deliberate. It is a choice though.⁣
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You’d be interested if I put an e-book together explaining exactly why we keep ourselves stuck and struggling, right? You want to know how you can move from stuck and struggling to free, strong and confident. ⁣
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Guess what, it takes 5 simple steps!⁣
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Answer with hashtag if you’re interested and you get access to the first copy as soon as it’s available! 🔥🔥⁣
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06/08/2024

Are you interested in feeling good about yourself? Finding back your self-confidence?

Let's have a chat and see IF I can help you and if so, how.

05/08/2024

🔥 Your opinion about me is not important! 🔥

Would I write this post? 😱
Do I dare? 😱
Do I dare to add that photo?

That's quite cheeky and confrontational, isn't it?

Isn't that over? 🙀

How often do you do that yourself?

What do I wear? Would I say or ask that?
Who do I talk to at a networking event?
Would I do this promotion?
Would I include this service in my offer?
What will my colleague, friend, competitor think of it?

To be honest, it doesn't matter at all.

Because there are actually 3 types of reactions possible, if we leave the indifferent reaction aside for a moment.

1️⃣ You recognize it, it hits home, you can do something with what I say or do. Then there is a chance that I can help you. That's a win! 🌟

2️⃣You recognize it, you've been there too. You're already a bit further along the same path as me. You at least understand me and can maybe help me. Also a win! 🌟

3️⃣ You have a judgment and an opinion about me that is probably not so positive. So you are on a different path than I am. Maybe we can still learn something from each other, if we are both open to it. What you think of me is unimportant. Your path, your choices.

So, what color socks did you put on this morning?
And who chose them, and why?

Do you want more insight into yourself than the color socks you chose this morning? Then answer "socks" or send me a PM for a free coaching call.
Then we will investigate together which unconscious patterns decide which color socks you put on and much more.

29/07/2024