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💔 Narcissism Recovery
💞 Relationship Coach
🌿 Family Constellations
🔹 Empowering you to heal
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07/06/2026

I didn’t always understand this…

For a long time (and sometimes it’s still difficult)
I took the silence personally. 🫣

I mistook emotional unavailability for not caring.
I thought if someone loved you enough, they would just… open up.

Eventually. If you were patient enough. Safe enough. Good enough. 😢

What I understand now, through my own life and through the work I do, is that most men were never given the tools. Not because they didn’t want to connect. But because connection, vulnerability, and emotional honesty were quietly and consistently trained out of them from the time they were small boys. 😢

That doesn’t make the impact on the people around them any less real. But it does change how we look at it. And it changes what becomes possible. 🩷

If this resonates, save it. And share it with someone who needs to read it today.

Lots of love 💕
Selina

04/06/2026

I work with men. Not many coaches in this space talk about that, but I do...

And what I see, over and over,
is not men who don’t feel.
It’s men who were so thoroughly trained to suppress feeling that they genuinely don’t know how to access it anymore.

They’re not cold.
They’re not broken.
They’re disconnected,
from something that was taken
from them very early. 😢

The su***de statistics aren’t a mystery.
When you spend a lifetime being told that vulnerability is weakness, asking for help becomes almost impossible. Even when everything is falling apart.

This is Men’s Mental Health Month! 💙
But this conversation doesn’t end in June.

If you’re a man reading this or a woman who loves one, I see you. And I want you to know: learning to feel again is not weakness. 😉

It’s the hardest and most important work there is. 🩷

Lots of love 💕
Selina

02/06/2026

June is Men’s Mental Health Month. 💙

But this isn’t about a month.
This is about the boys we raise and the men they become.

The ones who learned to go silent instead of asking for help.
The ones sitting across from me in sessions, finally learning that feelings aren’t the enemy.

It took them decades to get there.
It didn’t have to. 😢

If there’s a man in your life who struggles to open up: this one’s for him. And for the version of him that was once a boy who was told to toughen up. 😢

Lots of love 💕
Selina

01/06/2026

Men’s mental health deserves more than a month! 💙

It deserves space.
Softness.
Understanding.
Support.

This is for the men who carry silent burdens.
Who were never taught how to feel.
Who are healing while holding it all together.

June is Men’s Mental Health Month.
Let this be a reminder:
Silence isn’t strength.
Vulnerability is.

Let’s stop glorifying emotional suppression and start normalising honest, messy, real healing.

Tag a man who deserves to hear this.
Share to break the stigma.

Lots of love 💕
Selina

31/05/2026

Read that again. Slowly.

Because the guilt of “why did I stay so long” is one of the heaviest things you carry after a toxic relationship. And it’s also one of the most unfair. 😢

You didn’t stay because you were weak. You stayed because you were human. Because you loved. Because you hoped. Because leaving felt more dangerous than staying. 🫣

You survived until you could leave. That’s not failure. That’s strength you haven’t given yourself credit for yet.

Lots of love 💕
Selina

28/05/2026

Today I had an energetic constellation for myself. 🥰

I’m not going to try to fully explain, cause I’m still sitting with it. But something shifted.

Something that’s been running in the background for a long time finally got quiet for a minute. 🤲🏻

What came up was this:
How much of my energy has gone into being constantly on. Constantly managing. Constantly scanning for what needs to be fixed, held, carried, anticipated.

Survival mode doesn’t always look dramatic. Sometimes it just looks like a woman who never fully exhales. 🫣

And somewhere in that room today, I met a version of myself that was so tired of fighting. 🥊

Not fighting him.
Not fighting the situation. Fighting herself.
Criticising herself.
Pushing herself.
Asking herself to be more,
do more, hold more. 😢

The first fight I needed to stop was the one within myself.

I don’t have a neat conclusion for this yet. I’m still finding the words. But I think forgiveness, real forgiveness, starts there.

Not with forgiving what happened. With forgiving yourself for how long it took to see it.

For the years you spent at war with the one person who was always on your side.

If something in this lands,
you’ll know why.

Lots of love 💕
Selina

26/05/2026

Here’s something nobody warned me about. 🫣

When you leave a toxic relationship, you think the hard part is over.

The walking away.
The closing of the door.
The space that finally feels like yours again.

And then you start dating again. Or you don’t even date,
you just meet someone new, anyone, a colleague, a friend’s partner, a stranger at a dinner and you notice it.

The scanning.
The bracing.
The way your body reads them in the first three seconds for danger that isn’t there. 😢

You’re not in that relationship anymore. But the wiring still is. 🧠

We talk a lot about leaving.
We don’t talk enough about the unlearning that comes after.

The part where you have to teach your nervous system that not every silence is the start of something bad.
That not every raised voice is a threat.
That not every kind gesture has a price tag attached.

That part takes longer than the leaving. Way longer. 😢

And it’s not weakness. It’s not “still being hung up on them.” It’s your body doing exactly what it was trained to do. The unlearning is the work. The unlearning is the healing.

If you’re in that phase right now, somewhere between “I’m out” and “I feel safe”… please know it’s not taking too long.

You’re not doing it wrong. You’re rebuilding a whole internal map. 🩷

Save this for the day you catch yourself flinching at something that wasn’t a threat. And send it to the friend who keeps apologising for “still not being over it.”

Lots of love 💕
Selina

24/05/2026

I keep thinking about this line. 💭

It’s from Pippi Longstocking, a little girl in a children’s book from 1945, with red braids and one strength most adults lose somewhere along the way: the absence of doubt. 🥰

We’ve been taught the opposite. “I’ve never done it, so I probably can’t.” “I don’t have experience, so who am I to try.” “What if I fail?”

A child doesn’t think like that.
A child thinks: new thing, let’s go!

If there’s something you’ve been talking yourself out of this week, maybe try her logic instead. Just for a day. 🩷

Save this for the day your brain tries to talk you out of something. And send it to the friend who keeps saying “I could never.” 😉

Lots of love 💕
Selina

21/05/2026

This one is for the children who saw it all and were told they didn’t. 💔

For the ones who became “mature for their age” because the adults around them couldn’t be.

For the ones who learned to manage a parent’s mood before they learned to tie their shoes.

If you grew up watching one parent slowly disappear under the weight of the other, you weren’t too young to understand. You were too young to explain it. There’s a difference. 😢

This is not about hating the parent who hurt. It’s about finally telling the truth for the parent who was hurt. And for the child who carried both.

Save this for the day you start doubting your own memory again. And send it to someone who needs to know they were not imagining it. 🩷

Lots of love 💕
Selina

19/05/2026

Some people don’t ask you to love them. They ask you to prove it. Over and over. 😮‍💨

Just a little more next time.
And you do.

Because somewhere you learned that love was something you earned, not something you were simply given. 🤲🏻

That’s the tiredness.
Not the loving.
The auditioning.

You were never too much.
You were just performing for someone who was never going to clap. 😭

Save this for the day you forget. And send it to the woman in your life who’s still auditioning, she needs to read it more than she needs to hear it from him.

Lots of love 💕
Selina

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