30/08/2026
I spent YEARS thinking feeling “sexy” came from how I looked
having the “perfect” body, being attractive to other people, fitting into the norm etc etc
And then I lost 20kg and realised… oh 🤣 that actually wasn’t it
Don’t get me wrong, I feel confident in my body now and I fu***ng LOVE that
But the biggest change was the person I became in the process
I started doing the things I said I was going to do
I started trusting myself
I stopped making myself smaller because I was scared of being “too much”
I started saying yes to s**t that scared me
I started actually LIVING rather than constantly waiting until I felt confident enough to do it
And THAT is what makes me feel sexy now
Not sexy as in “do men find me attractive” 🤣
Sexy as in I feel fu***ng ALIVE
Like I really like who I am, I back myself, I’m proud of myself and I’m not constantly editing bits of my personality to make other people comfortable
And I think that’s the bit we sometimes miss when we talk about changing our bodies
Losing 20kg didn’t magically give me confidence
But proving to myself over and over again that I could change my life absolutely did
Anyway this post made me realise that approximately 90% of the things that make me feel sexy have absolutely f**k all to do with being sexy 🤣
What makes YOU feel sexy/alive as a woman?? I wanna know 👇🏼