08/09/2026
A few years ago we went through everything we say in a session and changed most of it.
"Now do this" became "if you'd like, you might try". "Close your eyes" became "you can close your eyes or soften your gaze β whichever suits". "Push a little further" went entirely. "Let me adjust you" became a question, asked every single time, with no as an equally good answer.
It sounds small. It isn't. The difference between an instruction and an invitation is the difference between a room where things happen TO you and a room where you decide. For anyone who has had that choice taken away at some point β which is a great many people, quietly β that difference is the whole thing.
It also made us better teachers for everyone else. Turns out nobody much likes being told what to do with their own body. πΏ