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I think a lot of ADHD and executive functioning struggles actually live inside transitions.It can be the difficulty of s...
04/06/2026

I think a lot of ADHD and executive functioning struggles actually live inside transitions.

It can be the difficulty of starting the task, stopping the task, leaving the house, switching between meetings, ending hyperfocus, going to bed, beginning the morning or moving between rest and action. From the outside, these moments can look small or insignificant, but many people underestimate how much cognitive, emotional and nervous system energy changing gears can require.

This is part of why someone can want to do something and still feel strangely stuck before beginning it, or know they are exhausted and still struggle to stop working. Some people can spend hours thinking about getting up and starting the day while feeling unable to fully initiate movement.

I also think transitions are difficult because they often involve uncertainty, loss of momentum, competing demands on attention, working memory load and the need to rapidly reorganise mentally around what comes next.

A lot of people become incredibly hard on themselves in these moments because the task itself may not even seem difficult. But often the challenge isn't really the task. It’s the transition into or out of the task.

Sometimes the hardest part is not doing the thing itself. It’s changing states.

I think a lot of conversations about work/life boundaries assume that people are simply too invested in work, too ambiti...
31/05/2026

I think a lot of conversations about work/life boundaries assume that people are simply too invested in work, too ambitious or not disciplined enough about switching off. But for many neurodivergent professionals, the relationship with work is often more complicated than that.

Work can be exhausting, overstimulating and cognitively demanding. But it can also provide structure, momentum, stimulation, clarity, novelty, external accountability and a defined sense of purpose. For some people, it is one of the environments where their brain feels most engaged and functional.

That can make boundaries surprisingly difficult to navigate. Not necessarily because someone wants to work all the time, but because stepping away from work is not always experienced as immediate relief.

A lot of people are also carrying far more than the visible workload itself. There is the constant self-monitoring, masking, context switching, emotional regulation, mental tracking and effort involved in trying to stay organised, responsive and 'on top of things' in environments that often demand consistency.

Over time, this can create a strange dynamic where someone is simultaneously exhausted by work and heavily reliant on it for structure, stimulation or a sense of competence. Which is part of why the usual advice about 'just switching off' can feel disconnected from the actual experience people are having.

I think this is where boundaries often need reframing. For many neurodivergent people, healthy boundaries are not really about disengaging from work entirely or caring less about what they do. They are about creating a way of working that allows space for recovery, nervous system regulation and sustainable functioning, rather than relying on chronic overextension as the baseline.

Nervous system regulation has become one of those phrases that people hear constantly, but often without much explanatio...
27/05/2026

Nervous system regulation has become one of those phrases that people hear constantly, but often without much explanation of what it actually means or why it matters.

A lot of the conversation online focuses on the things people do to support regulation - meditation, breathwork, yoga, ice baths, mindfulness practices - but much less attention goes toward recognising what nervous system dysregulation can actually look like in everyday life.

For many neurodivergent adults, it's not always obvious. It can look like becoming unusually irritable after a long workday, struggling to think clearly when overwhelmed, shutting down after too much stimulation, or needing much longer than expected to recover after sustained cognitive, emotional or social demands.

For many people, regulation and executive functioning are also closely linked. When the nervous system is overloaded, things like planning, prioritisation, emotional regulation, working memory and task initiation often become significantly harder to access. People can end up feeling frustrated with themselves for not functioning the way they think they 'should', without fully recognising how much strain their brain and body may already be under.

I also think this is part of why advice that focuses purely on discipline or pushing through can fall flat. Not because people are incapable or unwilling, but because there comes a point where the nervous system simply stops responding well to more pressure.

Things like sleep, recovery, movement, environment and overall load have a real impact on how well people are able to function. A lot of the time, the goal isn't learning how to force yourself harder, but understanding what helps your nervous system recover, regulate and function more sustainably in the first place.

A lot of ADHD advice gets shared as though there is one 'correct' way to stay organised, focused or productive. We're to...
21/05/2026

A lot of ADHD advice gets shared as though there is one 'correct' way to stay organised, focused or productive. We're told to wake up earlier, keep a cleaner workspace, use a specific planner, meal prep on Sundays, time block our calendars or build the perfect routine. And while those strategies absolutely can help some people, I think we often underestimate how individual effective systems actually are.

One person might need visual reminders everywhere because keeping things visible helps them stay connected to what matters. Another person will stop seeing those same reminders completely after a few days because their brain has already started filtering them into the background.

Some people think best while moving. Some need silence. Some need background noise or music. Some process ideas verbally and need to talk things through before they can organise their thinking clearly. Other people need to physically write things down before they can properly hold onto them.

I think this is part of why people can become so discouraged when a strategy works brilliantly for someone else but falls apart for them. They assume they are failing at the system, rather than recognising the system may simply not fit the way their brain naturally processes information, motivation or attention.

A lot of ADHD coaching is not really about teaching people the 'right' system. It is about helping people notice the conditions under which their brain functions best, then building more of their life around those patterns intentionally.

The best strategy is usually not the most disciplined, aesthetically pleasing or popular one. It’s the one your brain will actually return to and use consistently.

One of the things I talk about a lot with clients is the gap between knowing and doing.A lot of people I work with are i...
18/05/2026

One of the things I talk about a lot with clients is the gap between knowing and doing.

A lot of people I work with are incredibly self-aware. They’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, thought deeply about what needs to change and, in many cases, already know the exact steps they need to take. That’s often what makes it all so frustrating. The issue usually isn’t insight.

It’s sitting there looking at something you genuinely want or need to do and feeling like your brain just will not engage with it. Then watching yourself not do it for another day, while also thinking about it the entire time.

From the outside, this can look confusing, especially when someone is otherwise capable and functioning well in other areas of life. People will say things like 'but you know what you need to do' - as though knowledge naturally turns into action.

But for many neurodivergent people, activation is influenced by things that are much harder to see from the outside. Overwhelm, ambiguity, emotional weight, fatigue, perfectionism, or simply not knowing how to enter a task can all create friction, even when the intention is there.

I think this is also why people can end up being incredibly hard on themselves. They assume the struggle means they must not care enough, or they’re lazy, or they lack discipline, when in reality they may have been carrying the mental load of the task for days.

Understanding that difference matters, because people often need more support, structure or clarity - not more shame.

Structure is often seen as something restrictive. But for a lot of people, it’s the thing that actually makes starting p...
30/04/2026

Structure is often seen as something restrictive. But for a lot of people, it’s the thing that actually makes starting possible.

Without it, everything has to be held in your head. What needs to be done, where to begin, what matters most. That takes effort before you’ve even started the work itself, and it’s usually where things stall. Not because the task is difficult, but because there’s too much to figure out in the moment.

When there’s some structure around a task, even something simple, it changes the experience. Clear next steps, visible priorities and defined timelines reduce that load. They allow your attention to move towards the work itself, rather than constantly trying to organise how to start.

The goal is not rigid systems. It is enough structure to support how your mind actually works.

Energy is often treated as something you either have or you don’t.But that’s not quite how it tends to show up.You can s...
27/04/2026

Energy is often treated as something you either have or you don’t.

But that’s not quite how it tends to show up.

You can spend an hour on something that technically isn’t that hard and feel completely drained. And then spend the same amount of time on something else and feel focused, engaged, even a bit energised by it.

The difference isn’t always effort.

Often it’s whether what you’re doing draws on your strengths.

When something lines up with how your brain naturally works, it’s easier to get started and easier to stay with it. You’re still putting in effort, but it doesn’t feel like you’re pushing against yourself in the same way.

The opposite is true as well. Tasks that rely heavily on skills that don’t come as naturally can feel unbearably hard, even when they look simple from the outside.

That’s usually where people start to question their motivation or discipline.

But often it’s not that.

It’s that the work itself doesn’t fit how their brain works.

Part of this work is not only managing energy, but noticing what actually supports it.

Creating more opportunities to use your strengths can make the rest of your work feel more achievable.

I use the machine, mind, mission model a fair bit in my work because it explains something that a lot of people experien...
22/04/2026

I use the machine, mind, mission model a fair bit in my work because it explains something that a lot of people experience, in a really accessible way.

You’ve got your machine - your brain and how it actually works in practice. What holds your attention, what helps you get started, what doesn’t.

You’ve got your mind - the way you think about yourself and the assumptions you’ve built up over time about what you should be able to do.

And then there’s your mission - what you’re trying to do with your time and energy. What matters, what you’re aiming towards and whether the work in front of you connects to that in any real way.

When those things aren’t working together, it creates friction.

That’s usually the point where people start to question themselves. They assume it’s a discipline issue, or that they’re inconsistent, or that they’re just not applying themselves properly.

But often it’s not that.

It’s that the way your brain works, the expectations you're holding and the work you're trying to do aren’t actually lining up.

The reason I find that useful is that it gives you something to work with.

You can get clearer on what actually matters to you. You can understand how your brain works well enough to stop constantly pushing against it. And you can start to shift some of the assumptions you’ve been carrying so they’re not undermining you.

It doesn’t make everything easy, but it does reduce a lot of unnecessary friction.

Coaching is not primarily about adding more strategies. It is often about understanding your patterns more accurately an...
15/04/2026

Coaching is not primarily about adding more strategies. It is often about understanding your patterns more accurately and seeing how you operate with greater clarity.

When that shifts, self-blame tends to ease. Expectations become more realistic, and decisions feel more deliberate rather than reactive.

Most changes are not dramatic. They happen gradually, as small adjustments begin to accumulate and the overall experience of work and life starts to feel more manageable.

For many professionals, the most meaningful shift is not increased productivity, but a steadier sense of how to approach things and a more grounded relationship with themselves.

If you are curious about what that process might look like for you, my discovery calls are open. Link in bio.

14/04/2026

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