12/09/2025
Emotional intelligence
Curiosity
Morale
Integrity
Cooperation
Generosity
Strength
Holism
Admittedly I’ve had times in my life where my priorities were skewed
I chased status, looks, money, recognition, many of these as a large representation of internal insecurity
You see I grew up a very shy kid. I was mostly isolating myself because I struggled to feel comfortable in social settings
I lacked a lot of self confidence and ability to assert myself in necessary situations
I spent a large part of my life without a good masculine role model, and as a byproduct I developed extremist ideas of what I thought a man was
I thought that shoving down emotions was deemed strong, that hard work alone was what represented a resourceful man, that being rigid with my approach to life would protect me and give me what I wanted.
Only to recognise that it just gave me more of the same, frustrating, in my head, sad, lonely and unfulfilling lifestyle.
And it’s very easy to adopt such mentalities, especially if you’ve grown up idolising certain characters on the internet who’s incentive is only to cash out, without questioning yourself what is right for you.
I eventually recognised (my truth) that honesty, clear communication, emotional control, good intentions, and ability to acknowledge emotions without thinking it’s an attack on your self esteem are also signs of massive strength..
and a real confidence to go and live true to oneself without the worry of what others may think.
That is what has become clear to me that strong men CAN do.
I look around to see people making this realisation and it makes me happy to see, where the mask of excessive ego and bravado are being seen through left and right.
And more opportunity to provide a space for one another, to heal and embody a version of ourselves that we truly resonate with is becoming more apparent.
Here’s to more true transformation.
