30/07/2026
For so many years, I hated my body.
Not because it couldn’t do amazing things, but because it didn’t look like what I thought a woman was supposed to look like.
I was called solid. Big. Muscular. “Built.” And every comment reinforced the belief that I needed to become smaller not just physically, but in who I was.
I genuinely believed I’d never find a man who would love me as I am. I thought I’d have to lose the muscle, stop lifting weights, and fit into a version of femininity that felt acceptable.
Then I met the right person.
He doesn’t wish I was smaller. He doesn’t make me feel like I need to tone down who I am. He loves the woman I am today, whether I’m lean, soft, strong, bloated, confident or struggling. He celebrates my strength instead of being intimidated by it.
The biggest thing I’ve learnt is that the right person will never ask you to become less of yourself to deserve their love.
You do not need to shrink your body, your personality or your dreams to fit into someone else’s idea of what makes you lovable.
Be the big dog. Take up space. Lift the weights. Be strong.
The right person will love you in every season of your life and they’ll make you feel more like yourself, not less.
Ps Joel Bazza is so damn strong I struggle to keep up! ❤️