08/06/2025
Unpopular opinion but I'm going to say it anyway
I no longer care what people think about me.
I used to be riddled with anxiety raking over every interaction and conversation in my mind that I didn't say the wrong thing or upset that person because I only meant well. The constant checking social media for the non interactions from people when they were Interacting with other people and that made me feel worthless. The second guessing myself and my brain felt like a squirrel 🐿️ was going off in there! I was empty inside and didn't know how to be myself.
I would change but didn't know how to handle the different reactions from people so I shrunk and I retracted.
That was so exhausting. That's not living. That's dead on the inside disguised as living.
Then I realised that no one can make me feel anything without my permission.
I was a chronic people pleaser, couldn't handle rejection and I learnt that aggression was power.
So that's what I was.
And it was fu***ng awful!!!!
Imagine allowing other people to have so much control over your life!!!
And I know I wasn't alone in all of that.
Now, I understand that everything someone says is made up of all their life experiences, all their traumas, all their pains, all their fears, all their happiness, all their boundaries (or lack of), all their everything.
And it's not mine.
Their perception of me can only come from how they see me from all the things above that they have been through.
It's not about me - they've created an image of me through their lens and it has nothing to do with me.
Now, I stay in my own lane, take feedback from people who are where I want to be and leave the rest and I can love people where they are at.
It's taken a lot to get here but I now know the blueprint and the power to transform lives and I'm just getting started.
If you're sitting on the fence, I invite you to come over and chat - I promise I don't bite 😉
