29/12/2019
Reality is, not every kid who plays a sport wants to be a professional or world champion one day. That’s just the vision most adults have. Fact is, vast majority of kids simply just want to play and have fun with their friends.
As adults, we often think that just because a kid is good or loves to play a sport, they want to be a pro athlete or champion one day.
You see, not every child aspires to win a World Cup, World Series or Wimbledon title. Parents need to get over that. In fact for the majority, It's simply having fun and interacting with other kids what they seek most.
Let me ask you parents and coaches; are you promoting and fostering a love of simply participating, or are you thinking about how good your kid could really be?
When I see a kid getting pushed in a sport, I see a kid eventually getting pushed out of it. The fact that over 70% of kids drop out of sport before the age of 13 bears testament to this.
As adults, we need to help stop this unfortunate scenario from occurring. Fact is, in most cases it’s our ego (the “my kid is a star syndrome”) and personal agenda’s that contribute to this. We want our kid to be the best instead of wanting what’s best for them.
In my 25 years experience of watching kids develop in sports, I’ve learned that:
- The great ones will push themselves.
- The great ones chose their sport.
- The great ones do the extra work without having to be asked.
- The great ones will actually nag and push the parents and coaches to play more.
- The great ones love the process and have a deep passion for what they do.
- The great ones don’t think about winning, they think about competing hard.
- The great ones are supported, not pushed or prodded.
As parents and coaches, when it comes to our kids, rather than focus on trophies and medals, instead focus on building better adults for later on in life with better life skills. Train them to be champions in life. Aim to use sports as a medium to teach solid values, better social skills, and the rewards of effort and a great attitude.
Remember that it’s their journey, let them decide what sport or activity they want to do and how far they want to go. The cream always rises to the top. If they really want it bad enough, their behaviors and actions will show that.
Again, not all kids want to be professionals. Majority just want to play and have fun.
Allistair McCaw
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