18/09/2026
The fear he keeps activating in you 💣 the one that shows up in every intimate relationship, no matter who you’re with.
For me, it was fear of abandonment 💔
It showed up as over-functioning, chasing closeness, reading into every delay, spiraling before he even said a word.
I was managing his behavior to manage my nervous system.
Now, I know how to stay regulated without needing him to prove anything. That’s the difference healing makes.
Maybe yours isn’t abandonment.
Maybe it’s rejection — leaving before you can be left, so it never gets the chance to happen to you.
Maybe it’s unworthiness — picking partners who confirm you were right not to trust it.
Maybe it’s betrayal — bracing for the moment “who they really are” comes out, even when they’ve shown you otherwise.
Different fear. Same pattern: you leave the relationship, but the fear packs its bags and comes with you.
Before you walk away from another partner ask yourself 👇🏽
How long are you willing to run from yourself and blame your partner?
If you’re ready to actually find your fear instead of outrunning it, my masterclass this month walks you through it finding, understanding and most importantly soothing this fear to safety in your body 👇🏽
Comment “SOOTHE” and I’ll send you the details.