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With all the nervous system regulation talk, I think we’ve accidentally made it sound like the goal is to be calm all th...
14/09/2026

With all the nervous system regulation talk, I think we’ve accidentally made it sound like the goal is to be calm all the time.

It’s not.

You’re allowed to feel angry when something crosses a line.
Anxious when things feel uncertain.
Sad when something hurts.
Activated when something matters.

That doesn’t mean you’re dysregulated or “doing the work wrong.”

Regulation isn’t becoming unbothered. It’s being able to feel what you feel, notice what’s happening, and find your way back without getting completely lost in it.

I think the better question is less:
“How do I stop getting triggered?”

And more:
“How do I support myself when I am?”

Some counselling tools sound a little odd until you understand what they’re actually doing.Schedule your worrying.Do som...
11/09/2026

Some counselling tools sound a little odd until you understand what they’re actually doing.

Schedule your worrying.
Do something imperfectly on purpose.
Stop trying to calm down immediately.
Flip a coin, then ignore the coin.
Don’t turn every feeling into homework.

None of these are magic tricks.

They’re ways of practising a different response to anxiety, perfectionism, overthinking and difficult emotions.

Sometimes the goal isn’t to get rid of the feeling.

It’s to stop letting the feeling decide what happens next.

Sometimes clients come to me carrying the weight of uncertainty.Will my relationship be okay?What if my child is struggl...
09/09/2026

Sometimes clients come to me carrying the weight of uncertainty.

Will my relationship be okay?
What if my child is struggling?
What if I made the wrong decision?
What if this feeling doesn’t pass?
What if work changes?
What if something happens to someone I love?

Psychologically, our brains don’t love an open loop. When there’s a gap in what we know, the mind often tries to close it — and anxiety tends to fill that gap with the worst-case scenario.

That’s the trap.

Uncertainty is not the same as danger.
Not knowing is not the same as something being wrong.
And a lack of certainty does not mean you need to prepare for disaster.

Sometimes the work is learning to sit in the space of “I don’t know yet” without immediately turning it into “this is going to go badly.”

Peace isn’t always having the answer. Sometimes it’s trusting yourself enough to cope before the answer comes.

Overthinking

Sometimes the win is that it works.Sometimes the win is that it doesn’t and now you know something you didn’t know befor...
08/09/2026

Sometimes the win is that it works.

Sometimes the win is that it doesn’t and now you know something you didn’t know before.

You adjust. You learn. You try differently.

Either way, you leave with more than you started with. 🤍

I know routine is important for kids. Predictability, structure and knowing what comes next can help children feel secur...
07/09/2026

I know routine is important for kids. Predictability, structure and knowing what comes next can help children feel secure.

But so can this.

Slow mornings. Staying in pyjamas a little longer. Movie nights. Random plans. Boredom that turns into play. Time together without constantly watching the clock.

We talk so much about what children need to do — school, sport, homework, activities, routines — that sometimes we forget they also need space to simply be.

And, if I’m being completely truthful, I think we need it too.

So yes, we’ll get back to the school runs and packed lunches and early bedtimes. But I’m allowed to be a little sad that this part is ending. 🤍

04/09/2026

Self-care, sweetie, we need to talk. 😂

Because a candle is lovely.
A bath is lovely.
A face mask? Absolutely.

But none of them can tell someone no for you.

If you’re constantly available, overcommitting, saying yes when you mean no, carrying things that aren’t yours and then trying to recover from it with a bubble bath…

The bubble bath is not the problem.

You’re trying to self-care your way out of something that needs a boundary.

Keep the candle. 🕯️
Just learn to disappoint people occasionally too. 💅

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