09/07/2020
✨✨✨So this is my take on the road to selfworth.
It all starts with selfawareness. If you are not aware of your needs and/or if you do not (yet) dare to open up to your needs and voice them...if your needs are barely or not met, by you (and/or someone else), (self)worth is difficult to attain. Once you're on the train of selfawareness, the other steps follow closely or are even already somewhat incorporated.
Selfawareness starts with tuning in and hearing what our body needs: its hungry, thirsty, sleepy or longing for safety, for example. Those are our basic needs. Selfcare starts right there too: how well do you take care of meeting those needs? How well do you feed yourself? Do you get enough sleep and exercise? Are you in a safe environment? Do we care, and do we deem ourselves worthy (!) enough to meet these basic needs with full awareness and love? If so, we can move up to becoming aware of deeper needs: being seen/heard, validation, connection, support, fullfilment, love etc. We need to learn to recognise these needs and also learn to allow ourselves to feel them, voice them and fullfill them (if possible). If you cringe, shrink, feel guilty or ashamed or go silent at the question 'What do you need?' - start there. Thats your entrypoint.
This is where selfacceptance and selflove come into the picture aswell. Again: do we find ourselves worthy enough of meeting our needs? Or, is there old trauma, invalidation, pain, hurt, guilt, shame, limiting beliefs, thoughts, patterns etc still at play? If so, we will need to address those. We need to make space for what we crave and long for but never got. We need to voice what has been lacking and what has hurt us. We need to build up the belief that we are allowed to have needs, that our needs deserve attention and that it is ok to meet them and when possible to voice and fullfill them.
Selfworth is an accumulation of selfawareness, -care, -acceptance and -love. Its about stepping out of old limiting beliefs, hurt and trauma. Its about cancelling out that inner voice that says you are unworthy and you should keep your needs to yourself. Its about radical selflove ♥️🦋🚀🌏✨ Posted • ♡