Justine Dean I Coach I Mentor I Confidante

18/08/2025

It's been a year today 🙏

A year since he came home from being missing for a few days.

A year since he said 'We can't stay at home tonight because someone's coming for me'.

A year since I discovered he'd borrowed, stolen, and gambled, eye watering amounts of money from friends, family, 'brothers', and me; never to be repaid.

A year since he cleaned out my, and our, entire savings without my knowledge or consent.

A year since I discovered he'd already received his multiple 6 figure payout from Defence, hadn't told me, then gambled it all in the months beforehand.

A year since he hocked my wedding rings for a punt.

A year since I left him.

And a year since I came perilously close to being homeless.

And I didn't die 😉

For those of you I attempted to warn, yet still chose to give him money, I respect your efforts to help a mate.

Sadly you'll never see that money again. He's on a very healthy pension and has only one priority for where that goes, and it's got nothing to do with repaying your kindness.

For those of you who offered me work, comfort, wine, sleepovers, tissues, love, laughter, groceries, and rent money, my deepest and most heartfelt gratitude 🙏

Jx

18/11/2024

I've been offline for several months now due to extreme personal circumstance however I'll be back by the end of November.

Watch this space 😉

22/07/2024

Last month I was interviewed on a podcast about CSA.

This is part one of a two part interview. About 25 minutes in length.

Jx

Meet Justine DeanCoach, Mentor, ConfidanteJustine experienced many abusers throughout her childhood and adolesence. It all began between the ages of 3 - 6, w...

17/07/2024

Anyone feeling a bit like this doggo? 😬

I've just finished a 30 day group program with some beautiful humans and THE NEXT ROUND starts on Monday 27th July, 7.30pm.

❣️ If you've been tiptoeing around the edges wondering what it's like to work with me this is the PERFECT opportunity now to get your feet wet and be fully supported in a small private group of women.

What do we do?

👉 Weekly group coaching calls (all recorded in case 'life')
👉 Journal questions to answer in your own time
👉 Worksheets and lives to help you understand yourself better
👉 Fun, tears, learning, personal growth and all the warm fuzzy stuff

If doing it alone, reading a book, or watching a documentary worked we'd all be healthy, emotionally stable, have confidence, self love and boundaries in buckets.. right?

🥰 Who's it for?

Women who have symptoms of Impostorism, or residual strong emotions about things from their past, patterns of dodgy or destructive relationships, discomfort with the things they use in order to not feel the thing (think addictions, however mild, drinking, shopping, overeating etc).

Women who are still reeling from a divorce or horrible work situation.

Women who secretly believe they are not good enough. *In any capacity.. parenting, relationships, work situations, etc

🤔 Who is it NOT for?

Men. *Guys if you're keen for a men's 30 day program let me know! I've run the before and the guy gets phenomenal results. If I get 6 interested I'll run another.

People who want someone else to fix things for them. You have NO IDEA what you're capable of, but you will when you hang out with me for a month 😉

😎 What's expected of me?

,👉 One hour a week for our group call on a Monday night.
👉 A commitment to YOURSELF for fifteen minutes a day.
👉 Dress code is whatever you want, including pj's, fancy getup, gym gear, work clothes or cosplay, whatever is comfy for you 😆

💲 What's the investment?

$330 .. payable in weekly installments of $55 over six weeks. This is a NO BRAINER!

📝 How do I register?

Use the link in the comments section below.

If you're not interested that's perfectly ok, however if you have read this and you're thinking maybe it's time, register!

And/or if you have thought of someone you love who will benefit from this, please let them know and flick them the link 🥰

You can do anything for 30 days..

Jx

31/05/2024

I'm writing the description for my 30 day group program starting tomorrow and I'm getting all jumpy.

** I LOVE running these and as I was reading some of the content I kept getting emotional because of the memories I have from what participants have gotten from the ones I've run in the past.

IF YOU READ THE DESCRIPTION BELOW AND FEEL A NUDGE, there's still time to register. Or if you read it and immediately think of someone you love who you know would benefit from hanging out with me for a month, please pass this on to them.

Group description:

''Here's the scoop: over the next 30 days, we'll be learning about why we are where we are in our lives, unravelling the stories we tell ourselves, and exploring our beliefs, values, habits, and oh-so-human patterns.

This journey isn't just about heavy lifting and soul-searching, we're sprinkling a healthy dose of fun, laughter, and joy into the mix too!

Now, let's get real for a sec. We might stumble upon some sticky stuff during our time together. Like those pesky negative beliefs, fears and sneaky patterns that keep us stuck, and even those big, scary emotions that sometimes knock us off our feet.

However.. You're not alone in this. We're in it together, hand in hand, heart to heart, supporting each other every step of the way.

So, my darlings, get comfy, grab your favorite mug of whatever warms your heart, and let's embark on this journey together. Get ready to laugh, to cry, to dance, and to grow.

Because this, my friends, is where the magic happens. Welcome home. 💖✨''

(** WHY does this description sound so chirpy? Because it brings me to life doing this work, and group work is my favorite thing to do)

The group will remain open for three months in total so that participants with hectic schedules can watch/listen/check in at their own pace and/or revise their favourite bits 🥰

Here's the link to register: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/catalog.php?owner=19281640&action=addCart&clear=1&id=1758589

31/03/2024

If you're not on my email list and you'd like to be, DM me your email address.

If you're not in my group and you'd like to be, you can join here https://www.facebook.com/groups/theexpansioncollective

And if you know someone who might like either, please invite them 🙃

JDx

19/03/2024

Everyone has a story.

And many are ashamed of theirs.

We look confident, accomplished, and successful on the outside. We’ve got the qualifications, career, connections and credibility. Yet we secretly fear that it’s not enough, we’re not enough, that someone will expose us and everyone will point the finger and ask how the hell we got so far without being found out.

Nobody is allowed to see who we really are, what worries us, what we’re ashamed of, what confuses us, what we use to numb out (however mild that addiction is), how many times we’ve made ‘that’ mistake and why we can’t figure out why we keep doing it.

Not everyone feels like this.

(Statistically 7 out of 10 people do)

29/02/2024

In the online world where the allure of a golden ticket to *insert your goal* is ‘only one click away’, I've chosen a different path in my coaching business.

Promising specific outcomes not only feels disingenuous to me but also undermines the essence of what true coaching is about.

By the time someone reaches out for coaching they are likely in a vulnerable state and often willing to do anything to get what they want, and that’s where they may seek out a guarantee. The kind of work I do with clients is highly tailored, and there’s a level of personalisation required that you can’t cover in a promise.

I want my clients to feel empowered, and they won’t get that when they’re expecting someone else to do something ‘to’ them so they can finally ‘fix’ the thing.

What will work is when they are supported through conversations, processes, accountability, and tasking where they come to learn they hold the reins to their own results.

*Channelling Glenda the good Witch from The Wizard of Oz, ‘You always had the power my dear, you just had to realise it for yourself’..

By refraining from making promises, I'm able to facilitate genuine progress and change, free from the distraction of unrealistic or exaggerated expectations.

What I do offer is unwavering support, honest guidance, a wicked sense of humour, compassion, patience, and fun.

25/02/2024

I am in the process of changing up my offers and have opened places in my calendar to share something new called the 'Re-calibrate' session.

This is a simple, 'one off', one-hour chat over Zoom where you talk about whatever's most important for you right now. I'll ask questions, follow breadcrumbs, and offer solutions, strategies and tasking, depending on what you want to get out of our time together.

You can book here: https://justinedean.as.me/re-calibrate

*If you decide you want to do more sessions after Re-calibrate you can put the investment of this session towards one of my longer programs, if you book within 7 days of our appointment.

30/01/2024

Our body craves familiar chemicals, it’s addicted to what we’ve given it for decades and will resist with incredible, almost inexplicable, force when we start to grow and change our biology.

So if our ‘go to’ reaction is anger, fear, shame, or being defensive, regardless of whether the threat is real or perceived, our body is used to the chemical cocktail that we produce when we FEEL those emotions..

Every time we focus on the things that make us feel those negative emotions, there’s a part of our brain that mixes up the exact chemicals that were produced when the original event happened and we decided what to believe. eg. s&xual/physical/psychological abuse, body shaming, abandonment, emotional manipulation, criticism etc.

Our past is a prediction of our future. This is SO powerful. If we don’t change our thinking, we cannot change our behaviour. No one likes being angry, fearful, sad, guilty or hurt. We wouldn’t consciously choose to stay like that, unless we didn’t know there was a way to get rid of those destructive beliefs and the addiction our body has to our physical reaction, and we knew it was safe to do so.

The key is that we actually DID (and do) choose this, our decision to protect ourselves by staying the same is very conscious. We decided that, for example, ‘if I am really angry people will leave me alone’, or ‘I’ll get my own way’, or ‘I won’t have to do anything I don’t want to do’..

Part of us knows we GAIN something from staying the same. It’s our protection mechanism, and however harmful, that’s exactly what we are all wired to do. When we were little, we adopted some pretty unhealthy coping strategies in order to survive at the time.

We think that our deepest fears, (the things that keep us up at night, or lead us to addictions, loneliness, erratic behaviour, people pleasing, burnout etc), are insurmountable and unhealable, or that we’ll be judged, ridiculed, or humiliated by bringing them to light.

I can tell you right now it’s the complete opposite. Holding on to ‘it’, refusing to heal, will cause you more harm, distress and mistakes than you could imagine. And it will keep you small, sad and unfulfilled, no matter how much you insist you’re just fine. What do you think those chemicals are doing to your body, your heart, your other vital organs? Also remember: what you don’t heal in yourself you’ll hand to your children..

It’s important to note that you get to stay *insert your pattern here* or whatever is that you’re using to cope. No one can make you want to change that. It’s yours to hold on to if you’re convinced it’s working for you.

Or you can let it go. You can flick a switch in your beautiful brain and make new, much yummier, cocktails, with no emotional hangovers and no going back to old patterns. How’s that sound?

We think we are protecting ourselves by staying the same. My question is, what’s it really costing you, and what would be possible for you if you decided to let it go and learn a healthier way of being?