Mind Your Being

06/02/2026

One of the hardest things to navigate isn’t a difficult project.

It’s a difficult leader.

Maybe it’s your boss.

Maybe it’s a peer leader you have to partner with.

Maybe it’s someone reporting to you whose leadership style creates frustration for everyone around them.

Regardless of where they sit on the org chart, poor leadership has a way of affecting people.

It can feel defeating. Deflating. Demeaning.

It can make you question yourself, your abilities, and even your value.

I’ve watched talented people lose confidence because they spent too much time absorbing someone else’s energy.

And while poor leadership absolutely creates challenges, here’s what I want you to remember:

✨Don’t hand them the keys to your mindset.

✨Their lack of self-awareness isn’t yours.

✨Their poor communication isn’t yours.

✨Their inability to regulate their emotions isn’t yours.

✨Their leadership gaps don’t have to become your burden to carry.

Pay attention to patterns. Learn what you can. Set boundaries where appropriate. Continue growing yourself.

And most importantly, don’t let someone else’s shortcomings lead you to shrink yourself.

Some of the best leaders I’ve ever worked with weren’t shaped by great leadership. They were shaped by experiencing poor leadership and deciding, “When I’m in that position, I’m going to do better.”

Sometimes the lesson isn’t what to do. Sometimes it’s what not to do.

And those lessons can be just as powerful. 🤍

05/29/2026

Most of us spend more time planning our next week than we do thinking about the life we’re actually creating.

I came across this prompt recently and couldn’t stop thinking about it.

If someone had to describe your life in a handful of slides, what would they say? Not your resume. Not your job title. Not the stuff you’ve accumulated.

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝘀𝗮𝘆 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂?

Would they talk about how you showed up when things got hard, the way you treated people, the risks you took, or the things you stood for?

As a coach, I’ve found that a lot of people are working incredibly hard to build a life they haven’t really stopped to examine. They’re busy. They’re successful. They’re checking all the boxes. Yet something still feels off.

Sometimes the most important question isn’t, “What’s next?”

It’s, “Is the life I’m living actually mine?”

Those are some of my favorite conversations to have.

05/26/2026

I spent the weekend creating a flower cutting garden and mulching (sooo much mulching 🤦🏼‍♀️).

There’s something about creating something from nothing that creates space to reflect. For me my thoughts wandered all over the place…

✨ Gratitude to lift, carry, bend, and simply move my body
✨ Thoughts about how I’ll be able able to tend to our home as I age
✨ Appreciation for the beauty of the plants, bees, birds, and sunlight
✨ Wishing my grandparents, who have all passed, were able to come over to enjoy the space with us
✨ Memories of my pup trotting in the yard when we first moved in
✨ Planning my next project (refurbishing an old bench)

Sometimes when life is lifing, it can be difficult to stop and have uninterrupted time to allow our minds to wander. We’re wrapped up in the hustle culture. We are off doing more and thinking less. Dreaming less. Reflecting less. Experiencing joy less.

Simply 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 more.

How can you create more space to simply be?

05/24/2026

Okay ChatGPT… 🤍

05/24/2026

I used to think I needed all the things.

Not because I was trying to impress anyone… but because somewhere along the line I picked up this idea that certain things meant you were doing life right.

The makeup.
The designer bag.
The jewelry.
The perfectly curated vacation photos.
The upgrades.

And for a while, I thought maybe if I had those things… I’d feel more complete.

But the funny thing is, it never felt quite right to pursue those things. Because deep down, I’m not that person.

Over time, I’ve learned that I feel most like myself in simple moments.

No pressure to perform.
No need to keep up.
No trying to look like I have it all together.
No desire to be like everyone else.

Just faith.
People I love.
Learning.
Creating.
Being outside.
Laughing.
Growing.

And while I still appreciate beautiful things… they stopped becoming proof that life was beautiful. I no longer felt the need to fit in by way of the stuff.

Turns out God, purpose, peace, and being grounded in who I am feels better than owning what I thought I was supposed to want 🤍

05/24/2026

If 20-something-year-old me could see me now… she’d probably be pretty shocked. After all, it’s Saturday night and Memorial Day weekend.

The unofficial start of mischief… I mean Summer.

She was probably pre-gaming, picking her outfit, getting ready for a long night of debauchery down the shore.

Here I sit today… sipping my tea, cozied up watching YouTube videos on gardening, and watching my dog chewing on her toes.

And honestly?
She probably would’ve thought I was boring.

What she didn’t know yet is that peace feels different these days.

Joy nowadays looks like a calm nervous system, a quiet house, comfy clothes, and nowhere you need to be.

And in bed before younger me would’ve even gotten her hand stamped. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Don’t get me wrong… I wouldn’t change those days for anything. It’s just that as it turns out, this version of life feels pretty damn good, too. 🤍

05/23/2026

Lately I’ve been thinking about how much energy we spend trying to find the “right path.”

The right timing.
The right decision.
The right feeling.
The right amount of certainty before we move.

As if one day we wake up and suddenly know.

But I’m not sure that’s how it works.

I think a lot of us are standing still waiting for clarity… when clarity is standing a few steps ahead waiting for us.

And I get it.

Moving can feel risky.

Because movement means choosing. It means we might get it wrong. And it means we can’t always control the outcome.

But staying still doesn’t guarantee anything either.

Some of the best things in my life didn’t start with certainty.
They started with curiosity, discomfort, trying… with taking one small step and letting the next reveal itself.

I don’t know who needs this today, but maybe you don’t need the whole plan.

Maybe you don’t need permission.
Maybe you don’t need another month to think about it.

Maybe your next chapter isn’t found.

Maybe it’s created.

One step at a time.

05/20/2026

Stressed out? 🙋🏼‍♀️

I had a conversation recently about a leader who wasn’t showing up like they normally do.

And after peeling back the layers, it’s possible stress got the mic.

One of my favorite things about the ELI is it helps people see who they become under stress… because most of us are walking around thinking our reactions are just our personality.

They’re not.

Awareness gives us choice. And that awareness powers our ability to take control of how we show up.

DM me ELI if you’re curious what’s really driving how you show up 💙

05/19/2026

Personal improvement hack 👇🏼👇🏼

If you keep setting goals but somehow end up in the same patterns…

The problem may not be discipline. It may be awareness.

One of my favorite coaching tools, the Energy Leadership Index (ELI) Assessment, helps uncover what’s actually driving your reactions, choices, stress, and growth.

Because when you understand yourself better… change gets a whole lot easier.

DM me ELI if you’re curious ✨

05/11/2026

Sometimes the sun and rain show up at the same time.

This piece, 𝘔𝘦𝘦𝘵 𝘔𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘚𝘶𝘯 𝘚𝘩𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘴, is a birthday reflection about becoming... learning to love the version of yourself shaped by both the beautiful and the hard.

Enjoy! 🤍

The twists and turns of life, the bumps and bruises combined with the peace-filled, joyous ones, have all brought me right here. They've shaped me into exactly who I'm meant to be for this moment.