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Power Up Coach State-of-Mind Educator & Coach | Published Author [email protected]
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I am a self-leadership and relationship coach specializing in coaching individuals who are feeling stuck, misunderstood, or disconnected in their relationships—whether with themselves, a partner, family, or at work—helping them lead with clarity, confidence, and emotional strength from the inside out. If you’re ready to feel more grounded, connected, and in charge of your next chapter, let’s work together.

You've been staring at the restaurant menu for twenty minutes.You've read every description, studied the photos, and che...
30/10/2026

You've been staring at the restaurant menu for twenty minutes.
You've read every description, studied the photos, and checked the reviews.

The waiter has returned three times.

You're still trying to figure out which meal you'll enjoy the most.
Without tasting any of them.

Funny how we do this with life, too.

We want to know if we'll enjoy the new job, if the relationship will work, or if we'll regret a decision before we've even had the experience.

There's nothing wrong with gathering information.
Yet sometimes we're asking our minds to give us answers that only experience can provide.

You can study the menu all night.
At some point, dinner requires ordering something.

29/10/2026

You're Not Dating Your Past.

Ever meet someone new and find yourself watching for signs they're going to hurt you?
Not because they've done anything wrong.
Because someone else did.

You meet someone kind, thoughtful, and genuinely interested in getting to know you.
Things are going great.
Then one afternoon, you send a text.
Two hours go by.
Nothing.

And up pops the thought: “Here we go again.”

Here's something worth noticing.

Sometimes we're not responding to the person in front of us.
We're responding to what someone else taught us to expect.

Your past experiences matter.
They can teach you valuable lessons.
They don't automatically predict what someone new will do.

📖 Want to explore this further?
Mental Health: Why the Past Still Feels Present
https://www.mypowerupcoach.com/post/something-that-has-massively-destroyed-our-mental-health

29/10/2026

Ever ask someone for their opinion, get exactly the answer you wanted, and then decide you don't believe them?

You love your outfit.
Your sister loves it.
Your best friend loves it.

Then your husband says, “You look beautiful.”

Your response?
“You're just saying that!”

The poor man has now answered the question twice and somehow failed both times.

Here's the funny part.

Nothing about the outfit changed.
Somehow, your confidence did.

All it took was one little thought.

How many times does someone have to reassure us before we realize another answer might not be what we're missing?

Read for more: Why Reassurance in Relationships Never Creates Lasting Peace https://www.mypowerupcoach.com/post/reassurance-in-relationships

29/10/2026

Your adult child hasn't called in three weeks.
You check your phone.
Nothing.

Now your mind gets busy.
"Am I not important anymore?"
"After everything I've done?"
"Would a five-minute call really be that difficult?"

You miss them.
You want to feel remembered.
That's understandable.

Here's where things get interesting.

Accepting that someone doesn't communicate as often as you'd like doesn't mean you're saying it's okay.

You can wish things were different without spending every Sunday disappointed that they aren't.

Acceptance isn't approval.
It's recognizing what's happening so you can decide what to do next.

Related reading : The Quiet Resistance Keeping You From Moving Forward https://www.mypowerupcoach.com/post/why-you-feel-stuck-hidden-resistance

29/10/2026

Ever been talking to your spouse, only to realize you're competing with their cell phone?

You're halfway through telling a story when their eyes drop to the screen.

And suddenly you're wondering, "Am I talking to you, or should I just text you from across the room?"

Sound familiar?

At first, you're annoyed because they're distracted.
Then your mind gets involved.
"If they cared, they'd listen."
"I'm obviously not that important."
"They have time for their phone, but not for me."

Now you're not just frustrated.
You're feeling hurt, rejected, and maybe even a little jealous of a device that needs charging twice a day.

Someone else's lack of attention doesn't determine your importance.

Related reading:The Skill of Not Taking Things Personally*
https://www.mypowerupcoach.com/post/the-skill-of-not-taking-things-personally

29/10/2026

Ever had an argument with your spouse that lasted all morning... even though they left for work hours ago?

It starts with one comment.

"You always make everything more complicated than it needs to be."

Well, that was helpful.

An hour later, you're folding laundry, remembering everything you do around the house that nobody seems to notice.

Then you remember something they said last Tuesday.

And that comment from three years ago.

Before you know it, you've built a pretty impressive case against someone who isn't even home to defend themselves.

And somehow, you're getting angrier.

Sound familiar?

Here's something interesting.
Sometimes we're no longer reacting to what someone actually said. We're reacting to the entire argument we've continued having in our own head.

That doesn't mean the original comment was okay.
Maybe there's a real conversation worth having.

Yet there's a difference between addressing something that hurt you and spending the next three hours mentally gathering evidence.

Here's something worth considering: What's happening inside me each time I replay this?

Related reading: The Mind Is a Master at Building Cases
https://www.mypowerupcoach.com/post/mind-builds-cases

29/10/2026

Ever had someone at work say or do something that left you wondering, "What was THAT about?"

Maybe a coworker suddenly became distant. Your boss made a comment that didn't sit right. Or someone treated you unfairly and never explained why.

Now you're replaying the situation.
"What did I do wrong?"
"Why would they say that?"
"Did I miss something?"

You've analyzed their words, considered every possible explanation, and maybe even rehearsed a conversation you'll never have.

And you still don't know why.
Sound familiar?

Here's something worth considering: What if you never get an explanation?

Sometimes we believe understanding someone's behavior is necessary before we can move forward.

Yet an explanation isn't always available. And even when we get one, it may not give us the relief we expected.

You can acknowledge what happened, decide how you want to respond, and move forward without having every question answered.

Here's a question worth asking yourself: Do I need to understand why they did it to decide what I want to do next?

Additional information: The Quiet Resistance Keeping You From Moving Forward https://www.mypowerupcoach.com/post/why-you-feel-stuck-hidden-resistance

29/10/2026

Ever walked away from a job interview feeling great, only to question everything you said before you even made it home?
"Why did she say interesting?"
"Was that a good smile or just a polite one?"
"Should I have answered that question differently?"

Three days later, you've checked your email forty-seven times, replayed the entire interview, and asked everyone you know what they think.

And you still don't know if you got the job.
Sound familiar?

Here's something interesting. Sometimes we're not thinking because there's more information to find.
We're thinking because we don't like the feeling of not knowing.

We're hoping enough thinking will eventually give us certainty, reassurance, or relief.

Yet no amount of replaying a conversation can produce an answer that isn't available yet.

Related reading: The Search for Certainty Is Keeping You Stuck
https://www.mypowerupcoach.com/post/the-search-for-certainty-is-keeping-you-stuck etChann

29/10/2026

Ever had an argument with someone who wasn't even in the room?

Three years later, you've finally come up with the perfect comeback.
You've explained your side beautifully.
You've won the argument.

There's just one problem.
The other person has no idea they're participating.

Sound familiar?

Sometimes it's not even what someone said that keeps bothering us. It's what we believe their words meant.

One old comment can turn an otherwise perfectly good day into twenty minutes of frustration, resentment, and imaginary conversations.

Here's something interesting: You may not have been upset about that conversation for three years. You might be experiencing it all over again through your thinking right now.

Related reading: How to Stop Replaying Conversations in Your Head
https://www.mypowerupcoach.com/post/how-to-stop-replaying-conversations-in-your-head

Ever catch yourself expecting someone new to do exactly what someone from your past did?You meet someone. They're kind, ...
29/10/2026

Ever catch yourself expecting someone new to do exactly what someone from your past did?

You meet someone.
They're kind, thoughtful, and seem genuinely interested.

Then they don't answer your text for a couple of hours.
And up pops the thought: “Here we go again.”

They haven't responded.
Therefore, they're losing interest.

They're losing interest.
Therefore, there's probably someone else.

There's someone else.
Therefore, everything they've told you must have been a lie.

Congratulations.
You've built an entire betrayal case from an unanswered text.

Meanwhile, they're helping their dad move furniture.

Sometimes we're not responding to what's happening.
We're responding to what we've learned to expect.

Your past experiences matter.
They just don't automatically predict what someone new will do.

Are you getting to know this person, or are you getting reacquainted with your past?

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