08/18/2026
I used to think that if I made my kids feel a little guilty, maybe it would motivate them. ❤️ I would say things like, “After everything we’ve done for you…” or “You’re going to regret this someday,” thinking somehow that would help them see things differently or make a better choice.
But the truth is, it usually did the exact opposite. They would shut down, get defensive, or pull away, and then I would walk away feeling terrible too. I can’t tell you how many times I replayed a conversation in my head thinking, Ugh...I wish I would have said that differently.
I wasn’t trying to hurt them. I was trying to parent them, guide them and help them make good decisions. I just didn’t always have the tools to communicate what I was really feeling. And I think so many of us moms have been there. We love our kids so much that sometimes our fear, frustration or disappointment comes out completely different than we intended.
I still don’t say everything perfectly. I still have moments when I wish I could rewind a conversation and start over. The difference now is that I have tools that help me slow down, respond instead of react, and repair things when I get it wrong. Sometimes it is as simple as going back and saying, That didn’t come out the way I wanted it to. Can I try again? ❤️
That is exactly why I created my What to Say Cheat Sheet for Moms. Because we have ALL walked away from a conversation thinking, I wish I would have said that differently. This gives you simple words and phrases to use during those difficult parenting moments when emotions are high and you know what you want your daughter to understand, but you’re not quite sure how to say it.
Get my FREE What to Say Cheat Sheet for Moms here:
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Sometimes changing just a few words can completely change the conversation...and the connection. ❤️