Jeff Jacobson

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Jacobson, CPCC, PCC, is a professional coach and facilitator with 29 years of experience in the coaching world. He works with clients to manage change, enhance performance, discover cutting-edge solutions, and create sustainable working environments. Prior to coaching and training, Jeff studied Asian culture and language for years throughout East and Southeast Asia and went on to teach Mandarin Ch

inese to business leaders from Ford, Motorola, and Texas Instruments. Jeff is on faculty at both the Co-Active Training Institute (https://coactive.com/) (CTI), and the Trium Group (https://www.triumgroup.com/), where he develops and delivers curriculum to coaches, managers, and leaders. He is a board member for Coaching for Everyone (https://coachingforeveryone.org/), an organization that brings coaching to BIPOC leaders in North America and beyond. He lives with his partner and their cat in Los Angeles, and is the author of the novel The Boy Who Couldn’t Fly Straight, the first in his Young Adult queer paranormal adventure series (he likes adjectives!).

06/17/2026

Most people think this message is about sexual orientation. It's not. At least not yet. At that age, it's about something much simpler but still so damaging.

A little boy starts pulling back from his brothers, his friends, the kids he used to just play with, because somewhere there's a line and he doesn't know where it is. So he plays it safe. He starts watching himself. And without anyone saying it directly, he learns that there's something in him he's not supposed to love.

That's a heavy thing to carry before you're old enough to understand why.

06/15/2026

We talk a lot about protecting children from adult content. But nobody talks about this. Telling a child 'don't be gay' is introducing sexuality before they have any concept of what that even means. They're not thinking about love or attraction or marriage. They just like what they like. This message lands way before they can make sense of it and way before it's appropriate.

There's a lot to sit with here, but it's worth discussing.

06/11/2026

"Don't be a girl." Here's where it gets really complicated. Little boys don't understand the rule. They just know there is one. So they start running everything through a filter: Is this too girly? Am I allowed to like this? Art. Asking for help. Being too close to people. All of it gets flagged.

And for heterosexual boys, there's a painful double whammy. The person they fall in love with is also someone they've been taught is less than. You can't build something equal on that foundation. It was never set up to be.

What part of this hit closest to home? I'd love to hear it in the comments.

In case you missed it, here's a look at what we explored in May's Kind Lab.We dove into the pathway of Vulnerability. We...
06/11/2026

In case you missed it, here's a look at what we explored in May's Kind Lab.

We dove into the pathway of Vulnerability. We explored how to stay open and undefended while holding complexity, so we can deepen our connection with clients.

Join us next week for our final Kind Lab of the season (before we break for summer). We will be reviewing the pathways we've covered together. It's the perfect time to step into The Kind Lab.

🗓️ Thursday, June 18, 2026
🕛️ 12:00–1:30pm PT / 3:00–4:30pm ET
💻️ Virtual via Zoom
🔗 https://jeffjacobsoncoaching.notion.site/thekindlab

06/10/2026

The final Kind Lab of the season is here. And it's the one where everything comes together. ✨️

Kindness isn't just one thing. It's honest and playful, clear and vulnerable, sweet and real. Join Nina Simonds and me on June 18th as we integrate all five pathways together.

Come be a kinder, more human, more effective coach. (Also...have you seen how pretty it is outside? That alone is reason enough.) 🌿

🗓️ Thursday, June 18, 2026
🕛️ 12:00–1:30pm PT / 3:00–4:30pm ET
💻️ Virtual via Zoom
🔗 Link in bio

06/09/2026

"Don't be a girl." This affects everyone.

Before we even get into it, just sit with what that does on the surface. Little boys, who have sisters, cousins, moms, grandmothers, aunts, classmates, people they love and play with, grow up with the message that there's something wrong with being like them. Something to avoid. Something lesser.

That's just the beginning. There's a lot more to unpack here, and we'll be covering it together.

But what's coming up for you right off the top? Drop it in the comments. Let's discuss.

06/04/2026

Human babies have the longest period of dependency of any species on earth. We are literally wired to need each other. And we shame boys for it from the very beginning.

Instead of saying, "You'll get there, just not yet," we send them into a lifetime of not trusting their own needs. That's where this comes from: The man who can't ask for help. The man who has to prove he's not weak. The man who's still running from that needy little kid he was told never to be.

What's coming up for you? Drop it in the comments.

06/03/2026

A common thread in many of my recent coaching sessions are summer reunions. These reunions can serve the plot and help us pull back and remember who we used to be, and who we've become.

As a coach, a comment like this could be a great opportunity to dig in and discover more. What does that plot device reveal about their character?

Plot devices like a reunion are rich entry points into the story of someone's life.

06/01/2026

A toddler literally cannot hold their bowels, feed themselves, or stop falling over. And we tell them not to be that way.

"Don't be a baby" is just another way of saying don't be your age. Don't need anyone. Don't trust your own body. Over time that message doesn't go away. It just gets louder. Build the muscles. Prove you're not weak. Prove you're not that needy little kid. That's what a lifetime of 'don't be a baby' actually looks like.

Where do you still see this playing out? Tell me below.

Step into The Kind Lab for our final session before we break for summer! ☀️ We'll be reviewing the topics we've covered ...
05/30/2026

Step into The Kind Lab for our final session before we break for summer! ☀️

We'll be reviewing the topics we've covered together, so if this is your first session or your fifth...you're just in time! 💟

The Kind Lab will be returning in September with all new material to help you bring kindness into your coaching!

🗓️ Session 5: June 18 | 12–1:30pm PT
🕛️ 90-minute workshop
🔗 https://jeffjacobsoncoaching.notion.site/thekindlab

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