Jeff Jacobson

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Jacobson, CPCC, PCC, is a professional coach and facilitator with 29 years of experience in the coaching world. He works with clients to manage change, enhance performance, discover cutting-edge solutions, and create sustainable working environments. Prior to coaching and training, Jeff studied Asian culture and language for years throughout East and Southeast Asia and went on to teach Mandarin Ch

inese to business leaders from Ford, Motorola, and Texas Instruments. Jeff is on faculty at both the Co-Active Training Institute (https://coactive.com/) (CTI), and the Trium Group (https://www.triumgroup.com/), where he develops and delivers curriculum to coaches, managers, and leaders. He is a board member for Coaching for Everyone (https://coachingforeveryone.org/), an organization that brings coaching to BIPOC leaders in North America and beyond. He lives with his partner and their cat in Los Angeles, and is the author of the novel The Boy Who Couldn’t Fly Straight, the first in his Young Adult queer paranormal adventure series (he likes adjectives!).

06/04/2026

Human babies have the longest period of dependency of any species on earth. We are literally wired to need each other. And we shame boys for it from the very beginning.

Instead of saying, "You'll get there, just not yet," we send them into a lifetime of not trusting their own needs. That's where this comes from: The man who can't ask for help. The man who has to prove he's not weak. The man who's still running from that needy little kid he was told never to be.

What's coming up for you? Drop it in the comments.

06/03/2026

A common thread in many of my recent coaching sessions are summer reunions. These reunions can serve the plot and help us pull back and remember who we used to be, and who we've become.

As a coach, a comment like this could be a great opportunity to dig in and discover more. What does that plot device reveal about their character?

Plot devices like a reunion are rich entry points into the story of someone's life.

06/01/2026

A toddler literally cannot hold their bowels, feed themselves, or stop falling over. And we tell them not to be that way.

"Don't be a baby" is just another way of saying don't be your age. Don't need anyone. Don't trust your own body. Over time that message doesn't go away. It just gets louder. Build the muscles. Prove you're not weak. Prove you're not that needy little kid. That's what a lifetime of 'don't be a baby' actually looks like.

Where do you still see this playing out? Tell me below.

Step into The Kind Lab for our final session before we break for summer! ☀️ We'll be reviewing the topics we've covered ...
05/30/2026

Step into The Kind Lab for our final session before we break for summer! ☀️

We'll be reviewing the topics we've covered together, so if this is your first session or your fifth...you're just in time! 💟

The Kind Lab will be returning in September with all new material to help you bring kindness into your coaching!

🗓️ Session 5: June 18 | 12–1:30pm PT
🕛️ 90-minute workshop
🔗 https://jeffjacobsoncoaching.notion.site/thekindlab

05/27/2026

"Don't be a baby." This is the first message little boys receive before they're old enough to question it.

It sounds harmless. But it actually teaches that your needs are a problem, your body is a problem, and depending on anyone for anything is something to be ashamed of.

Sound familiar? Let's talk about it.

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05/20/2026

Lashing out isn't courage. It isn't alpha. It's just unprocessed fear looking for somewhere to land. Get curious. Take a breath. That's the work.

05/18/2026

Don't be gay. This is the third message little boys receive before they're old enough to question it.

The first (Don't be a baby) says your body and your needs are a problem. The second (Don't be a girl) says anything perceived as feminine, like emotions, softness, and sensitivity, is off limits. The third (Don't be gay) takes it even further.

I'd love to hear your thoughts. Let's talk about them in the comments.

05/13/2026

A love letter to my dad. In ink. Permanent felt scary until I remembered this body isn't forever anyway. So why not? ⛺️

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05/11/2026

Don't be a girl. This is the second message little boys receive before they're old enough to question it. It's not just a message about boys. But it's also a message about girls, that girls are different in a way that makes them less and that being like a girl is one of the worst thing a boy could be.

Both sides get conditioned at the same time. Boys learn to cut off. Girls learn to shrink. And it shapes everything that comes after.

This one affects everyone. What's your experience? Let's talk in the comments.

05/07/2026

Debating whether it was 1,000 or 62 million isn't the conversation we need to be having.

The conversation is this: It is all men until most men stop some men. Period.

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