09/09/2026
I turned 38 today.
Here are 5 lessons chronic pain has taught me after coaching parents all over the country.
→ Pain is not a life sentence
Most people come to me believing something in their body is broken. It's not. It's undertrained, underloaded, and scared of movement it hasn't done in years. Once we start rebuilding capacity, the fear goes first. The pain follows right behind it.
→ Strength is the antidote to fear
You can't think your way out of chronic pain. You build your way out of it. Every rep is proof to your nervous system that your body is safe to move again. That's not motivation. That's science.
→ Presence is a physical skill
You can't wrestle your kids on the floor, carry them up the stairs, or chase them at the park if your body can't handle the load. Presence isn't just showing up emotionally. It's having the capacity to physically show up too.
→ Most pain doesn't need meds, injections, or surgery
99% of what I see needs a plan. Progressive loading, better habits, and someone willing to coach you through the discomfort of getting strong again. Not a quick fix. A real one.
→ The parents I coach teach me more than school ever did
Nurses like Carol. Skeptics like Jeff who didn't believe remote coaching could work until it did. Every one of them proved the same thing to me: it's never too late to rebuild.
I do this so I can still get on the floor with my own kids, not just today, for the next 30 years.
What's one thing you want your body to still do at 70? Tell me below. 👇