08/31/2026
This woman you see today did not become her overnight. My healing journey started in 2015.
At 17, already a mother of two, the young woman in the picture on the left,
I had almost stopped dreaming.
I thought my circumstances had already determined my future, and somewhere along the way, I believed the words:
“You are worthless"
What I didn't know was that long before life happened to me, God had already placed purpose, gifts, strength, and potential within me.
Then life happened.
Pain. Trauma. Rejection. Abandonment. Survival.
Years later, I became successful, accomplished things I once couldn't imagine, and traveled.
My life looked good on the outside, but inside I was still carrying wounds that success could not heal.
In 2016, I began asking myself deeper questions:
Why do I behave this way?
Why does this trigger me?
Why do I repeat certain patterns?
What am I afraid of?
What did pain teach me to believe about myself?
Romans 12:2 says, “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
I began to understand that healing wasn't only about recovering from what happened to me.
I also had to unlearn what pain had taught me.
Some things I called my personality were survival patterns.
Some things I accepted as normal were rooted in wounds.
And some things I believed about myself were never God's truth about me.
Healing addresses the wound.
Renewal changes what the wound taught you.
Transformation changes how you live.
Today, I don't just measure my life by what I have accomplished.
Through my partnership with God, I am healing, renewing my mind, and becoming who He created me to be.
The woman you see today is still healing, still learning, still unlearning, and still becoming.
Maybe becoming whole isn't about becoming someone new.
Maybe it's about rediscovering who God created you to be before pain tried to define you.
What have you had to unlearn?
— Memory Grace Hector
