11/14/2025
Is Suffering a Choice?
A truly intriguing question: Is suffering a choice? This contemplation was sparked when he encountered a quote by Haruki Murakami on someone’s status, which suggested that while is inevitable, is a decision.
These words struck a chord with him, as it was the first time he had seen someone differentiate between pain and suffering.
People often use the term "suffering" to describe their emotional or physical distress. However, upon closer examination, suffering is not simply a feeling or emotion.
So What Is Suffering, Then?
As we delve into this concept, we can uncover an essential understanding of how pain manifests. Pain can result from injury, whether it is self-inflicted or caused by others, leading to wounds that hurt, bleed, and disrupt our lives. How do we, as humans, respond to such injuries? Typically, we endure the initial acute phase and then begin treatment to restore normal function.
In this context, what does suffering signify? Suffering is the conscious choice to avoid treatment.
This often presents itself as someone declaring, “I won’t do anything; I’ll let it heal on its own,” if they are fortunate enough.
At its most extreme, it involves an individual nurturing their wound, elevating it, structuring their life around it, and openly sharing their pain and suffering with those around them.
A well-balanced person would certainly avoid this route, as it resembles a form of masochism.
A Shift in Perspective
When we approach suffering and pain from this perspective, it becomes evident that individuals do not choose their emotions, nor are they responsible for them. To suggest that someone experiencing pain is choosing it would require a level of insensitivity that borders on absurdity.
With that being said, suffering: as in refusing treatment, is a choice!