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12/19/2025

If the holidays feel like a painful reminder of what used to be, this video is for you.
Part 7 - Emotional First Aid for Christian Women After Separation or Divorce

12/19/2025

💔💔 YOUR EX MOVED ON QUICKLY...YOUR HEART DIDN'T
A lady in my Bible Study once said something that stunned me. It wasn’t what I expected.
I’d been doing all the “right” things after my divorce.
Seeing a counselor. Praying. Forcing myself to go to church.
Trying to be strong. Trying to be gracious. Trying to move forward.
Everyone thought I was doing “so well.”
I even received compliments for how I “handled things.”
But they didn't see the ugly tears shed behind closed doors.
The nights I lay awake believing I “wasn’t good enough.”
The way my chest tightened when I saw a happy couple holding hands.
The silent ache of feeling replaced.
The loneliness that didn’t feel like loneliness…
It felt like one loss stacked on top of another.
Loss of my marriage.
Loss of my dreams.
Loss of myself and the only identity I knew, that of being a wife and mother.
One afternoon, after listening to me question (again) why it still hurt so much and why I wasn’t “over it by now,” she looked at me and said:
“You’ve been surviving, Debra, but you haven’t taken the time to truly heal.”
I didn’t understand, so I asked her to explain.
She said, “Survival is a skill. Healing is a choice, a surrender. You know how to push through the pain. You don’t know how to lay it down and hand it over to God.”
As if I wasn’t already broken, when she said that, something in me broke even more.
Because she was right.
I knew how to function.
Keeping the house. Bringing the kids to school.
Smiling a pretend smile and giving myself check marks on a To-Do List because I had become so forgetful.
But I didn’t know how to let go of the pain.
I didn’t know how to stop bracing for the next disappointment.
I didn’t know how to stop replaying the betrayal.
I didn’t know how to stop assuming everyone else was worth choosing over me.
I didn’t know how to heal.
I told her I was exhausted.
Not physically, emotionally…
just tired in the core of my very being.
Tired of pretending I was okay.
Tired of holding myself together while quietly falling apart.
She said something I’ll never forget:
“God heals the brokenhearted. But you have to give Him the pieces. You haven't let yourself do that yet. You keep trying to do this on your own, in your own way.”
I felt exposed.
Seen.
Relieved and terrified at the same time because she saw right through me.
She quoted the Dalai Lama, “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
I didn’t want to suffer anymore.
I didn’t want to keep pretending.
I didn’t want to wear a fake smile and cry myself to sleep again.
I wanted to feel whole again.
Be held again.
Feel safe again.
And realize I was worthy again.
Then came the part that changed everything.
She said, “You need something that walks with you daily. Not once a month. Not once a week. Every day. Healing happens from the inside out when you make your healing a priority.”
Those words are what led me, years later, to create what the woman I used to be so desperately needed back then.
The woman who was barely holding on by a thread.
The woman who thought she tried everything but still hurt.
A safe, structured, Christ-centered path to take one small step a day toward healing.
A path with tangible action steps and full accountability.
It’s called my 30-Days of Hope, Healing, and Path to Peace Coaching Series.
Not a year.
Not a long-term commitment.
Just 30 days.
Women tell me things like:
“I’ve been in therapy for years and felt better working with you after just 3 weeks.”
“Why wasn’t I taught these things sooner?”
“I can breathe again. I feel so much lighter.”
One woman said,
“If I had learned this when I was younger, I can only imagine how different my life would've been.”
AND THIS PART MATTERS:
If you don’t feel better in 30 days…you get every dollar back!
A 100% money back guarantee.
No pressure. No shame. No questions asked.
Healing shouldn’t feel like another risk.
If you’ve been in survival mode and searching for peace…
If you’re tired of your heart aching and feeling stuck…
If your voice is saying “I’m fine” in a three octave higher-pitched voice when you know you’re not…
Let this 30-Days of Hope, Healing, and Path to Peace Coaching Series be the turning point you’ve prayed for.
With God.
With support.
With accountability
With someone who understands the weight you’re carrying.
If something in this stirred you…
if your chest feels heavy or tight…
if you read this and thought, “This is me…”
then you are the woman I created this program for…
the woman I used to be.
Comment “30 Days” or message me privately to ask a question or for more information.

12/19/2025

Part 6 - Emotional First Aid for Christian Women After Separation or Divorce. A video series to help you through the holidays.
If you are trying to heal but can’t grasp why it is taking you this long, or why it still hurts so much, this video is for you.
Follow along this month for more Emotional First Aid tips, and click the link in the comments for the action sheet or comment "action sheet" and I will send it to you.

12/16/2025

Part 5 - Emotional First Aid for Christian Women After Separation or Divorce
A video series to help you through the holidays.
In the morning, if thoughts are running wild in your mind before your eyes are even barely open…
The divorce.
The loss.
The loneliness.
The rejection.
The betrayal.
The excruciating hurt.
Then this video is for you.
Follow along this month for more Emotional First Aid tips.

12/16/2025

Part 5 - Emotional First Aid for Christian Women After Separation or Divorce
A video series to help you through the holidays.
In the morning, if thoughts are running wild in your mind before your eyes are even barely open…
The divorce.
The loss.
The loneliness.
The rejection.
The betrayal.
The excruciating hurt.
Then this video is for you.
Follow along this month for more Emotional First Aid tips.

12/16/2025

Part 6 - Emotional First Aid for Christian Women After Separation or Divorce. A video series to help you through the holidays.
If you are trying to heal but can’t grasp why it is taking you this long, or why it still hurts so much, this video is for you.
Follow along this month for more Emotional First Aid tips, and make sure to click the link in the comments to receive the helpful download.

12/13/2025

Part 4 - Emotional First Aid for Christian Women After Separation or Divorce
A video series to help you through the holidays.
If the pain feels unbearable at times, this video is for you.
Follow along this month for more Emotional First Aid tips

12/11/2025

Part 3 - Emotional First Aid for Christian Women After Separation or Divorce. ❤️💚💔 A video series to help you through the holidays.
If you are barely holding it together, this video is for you.
Follow along this month for more Emotional First Aid tips.

12/10/2025

Part 2 - EMOTIONAL FIRST AID FOR CHRISTIAN WOMEN AFTER SEPARATION OR DIVORCE ❤️💚💔 A video series to help you through the holidays.
If you have an inner critic on steroids like I used to, this video is for you. Because that voice is not speaking the truth. You do not have to listen to it!
Follow along this month for more Emotional First Aid tips.

12/08/2025

Emotional First Aid for Christian Women After Separation or Divorce During the Holidays ❤️💚💔

If you are scrolling through photos and seeing smiling couples while you sit there feeling shattered and alone, this video is for you.

Today I’m beginning a simple video series to help you through the holidays.

Loneliness, especially after separation or divorce, hits everyone differently during the holidays.

Follow along this month for more Emotional First Aid tips, and make sure to click the link in the comments to receive the helpful download.

12/08/2025

OUR NAME HAS CHANGED!!!

Apparently, our former group name (Divorced Warrior Women) has created a bit of confusion. So in an effort to minimize the confusion, we decided to change it.

So I'd like to introduce you to just some of our amazing ladies in our Heartache To Healing community.

We are a group of Christian women walking together through separation, divorce, or even serious marital struggles.

We are about growing, connecting, healing, and moving forward while we figure out the next fun thing to put on the calendar.
We are not about living in the past, spewing venom, or staying stuck in the pain.

We meet online and in person, offering support, laughter, and real, authentic connection.

Whether you are:
- Considering separation
- Separated
- Newly divorced
- Or a seasoned veteran of divorce, willing to share in
wisdom

YOU ARE WELCOME HERE 🥰

We offer the opportunity to:
- Meet like-minded Christian women
- Join in-person or online connect groups
- Create bonds and lasting friendships
- Learn from each other, the good, the bad, & the ugly 😂
- Receive faith-based guidance, direction, and wisdom
for healing and moving forward in life
- Participate in a variety of social gatherings (ie., game
nights, bowling, book club, lakefront strolls, music
festivals, paint parties, holiday events)
- Build wonderful new memories as the author of the
next chapter of your life

Mark your calendar now, and plan to join us every 1st, 2nd, 3rd, and 4th Tuesday of the month at 6:30pm CST, unless otherwise noted.

Join our FB group - Heartache To Healing - for location information, Zoom links, and party details.

Feel free to pass this information along to anyone you may know who might be interested in doing life together, while having a bit of fun!!

11/03/2025