02/19/2024
You feel bad because the baby is crying hysterically and the bottle isn't ready,
You feel awful because the diaper wasn't fastened tight enough and there's a blowout,
You feel badly the toddler is soaked and you didn't bring extra clothes,
You feel terrible when the snacks run out,
You feel awful when your kid is crying and you don't know why,
You feel unworthy when your kid runs to the other parent for comfort and not you,
You are heartbroken you lost it and started yelling.
Parenting is tough. It can feel like you are walking with blinders on, it can also feel like it's a brand new start every-single-day in the not to so good way.
What I want you to know is that every day your child is learning something new.
Each day your child is shifting their perspective.
Each day YOU ARE parenting a new child.
A child you don't completely know because you are allowing them to become their own person.
Yes, from babies and beyond the love of your life will be slightly ahead or slightly behind your rhythms or expectations. That is how it is SUPPOSED to be.
You are NOT A BAD PARENT you are feeling the sting, frustration, or worry of being out of sync.
Being out of sync is just as good as being in sync. It provides room for both of you to see yourselves as separate from each other.
When too much friction arises, it is time to see what messages are being transmitted. What does your child need? What does your child want?
At that point, you slow down, without guilt or shame, and make adjustments.
Parenting is a brilliant and taxing ride. Stop slamming your brakes when they begin to accelerate, Don't accelerate when they are shifting into neutral.
Parenting is like getting to know a new car. Try to enjoy the ride!
If your VW is more monster truck these days, reach out. I can help😆
