05/23/2022
How to change unhealthy defense mechanisms
For the most part, defense mechanisms can be toxic to our social skills, as well as relationships with people.
For this reason, it is a good idea to target those defense mechanisms and change them.
Here are a couple of ways you can do that:
1. Mercy
Stop guilt-tripping yourself and realize that you are not always aware of how your mind and ego will react.
Reactions and defense mechanisms are automatic and as such, we only experience them, rather than do them.
2. Awareness
Each manifestation of a defense mechanism is a chance for you to notice the unhealthy behavior pattern.
Once you're aware of it, you have the opportunity to make a conscious decision, cut it halfway through, and change it for the better.
3. Accountability
Talking to friends and family can be one of the best ways to get an objective, third-person perspective on your behaviors and mechanisms.
This in turn will help you become more aware of them and make change easily inducable.
4. Coping strategies
Mindfulness and meditation are two very potent tools for shifting defense mechanisms. The premise is the same - Become aware of your mechanisms and limiting thoughts and take a conscious decision to change them.
What is your way of coping? Share down below!
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Joe Delgado
