Carla R. Cannon-Lawrence

06/06/2026

Chile… there was a time when a situation like this would have led to one of our MANY breakups. Now after over a decade together, we’ve learned how “fight fair” where we may throw little jabs in the heat of the moment, but we’ve disciplined ourselves to NOT ever hit below the belt under ANY circumstance.

We are also aware of one another’s weaknesses and we didn’t always know how to cover one another properly. But with intention, time, and many hard conversations & experiences later, we eventually got it right.♥️

06/06/2026

‼️(In my Tevin Campbell voice)… CAN WE TALK FOR A MINUTE⁉️

There’s a level of peace that comes from not feeling the need to track your spouse’s every move, check their phone, or spend your relationship operating from suspicion and fear. Marriage is so much bigger than romance, attraction, or even s*x.

The person you choose becomes your life partner. They become the person you build a life with, share dreams with, face challenges with, and trust with the parts of yourself that few people ever get to see. A healthy marriage requires intentional love, patience, commitment, communication, accountability, grace, forgiveness, and a willingness to grow. It isn’t always easy, but neither is anything worth building.

One thing I’ve learned is that when we lead with love instead of blame, criticism, or the need to be right, everything begins to shift. Not overnight. Not perfectly. But it shifts. So many people are quick to walk away when things get difficult. Why? Because healing a relationship requires focus, commitment, consistency, and intentional effort. And if we’re honest, that’s a level of work many people simply aren’t willing to do.

Weddings are beautiful. Have the dress. Have the flowers. Have the music. Have all the things. Celebrate it. Enjoy it. Take the pictures. Make the memories. BUT when the guests go home, the gifts are opened, and the photos are posted, it’s just the two of you. And that’s when the real work and the real beauty begins.

A marital covenant is sacred. There will be seasons of temptation, frustration, disappointment, growth, and moments where choosing your vows feels harder than you expected. Think about that. Honoring your vows often has as much to do with YOUR character, integrity, and commitment as it does with your spouse’s behavior. One thing I’ve learned through my own marriage and through working with couples is this⤵️

Love usually isn’t the problem. Communication is.
Most people genuinely love each other. They just don’t know how to navigate hurt, disappointment, unmet expectations, and conflict in healthy ways.
That’s one of the reasons I wrote How to Talk So Your Partner Will Listen. Because healthy relationships aren’t built on mind-reading. They’re built on communication, understanding, emotional safety, and intentional effort. ♥️🏳️‍🌈

06/05/2026

One of the hardest parts of my healing journey has been changing my relationship with medication. As a child, I was placed in therapy & prescribed medication before I was old enough to fully understand what was happening. Over time, I realized that medication itself wasn’t always the trigger.

What it reminded me of was. Healing taught me that sometimes we’re not fighting what’s in front of us, we’re fighting what it represents. For years, I judged myself for struggling with certain things. Today, I’m learning to give myself more grace, more compassion, and less judgment.

Sometimes healing isn’t about changing the situation. Sometimes it’s about changing the story we’ve attached to it.

💫What’s something you’ve had to see differently on your healing journey?

06/04/2026

Check this out⤵️

Mental Health Podcast · Updated Weekly · Healing Conversations with Carla is a healing-centered podcast hosted by Carla R. Cannon-Lawrence, Trauma Recovery & Identity Reconstruction Coach. Drawing from both personal lived experience and acad…

06/03/2026

I had to run this back Chile cause it’s crazy out here. You can’t even be nice these days then they wonder why some folks use mean muggin as a defense mechanism. It’s not always that in my opinion. They just don’t want to be bothered or played with. 💯

06/02/2026

Keep this in mind this week!💛

05/30/2026

Living a life without secrets feels so liberating. Having to change your passcode every few days or take your phone with you everywhere you go can be exhausting. Thank God we outgrew that many moons ago. We made a promise to eachother early on that we would tell one another EVERYTHING so no outside person can EVER feel as if they have one up on the other.💍♥️🌹

05/30/2026

Thank God I never settled. This view is so much better.🏝️

05/27/2026

A lot of people prepare more for the wedding than they do for the actual marriage. Then life starts life-ing, and suddenly communication begins to break down, conflict feels personal, unhealed wounds surface, expectations clash, and resentment slowly starts building between two people who genuinely love each other. That’s often the moment couples realize that love alone isn’t enough to sustain a healthy relationship.

That’s why premarital coaching matters. Healthy marriages are not built on chemistry alone, but they’re built on communication, emotional awareness, accountability, trust, and learning how to navigate life as a team BEFORE major problems arise.

One of the things we help couples do is slow down and have the conversations many people avoid until after they’re already married.

Inside our premarital coaching sessions, couples work through topics like:
• Communication Styles
• Conflict Resolution
• Emotional Triggers
• Parenting Styles
• Family Dynamics
• Financial Conversations
• Expectations & Roles
• Intimacy & Connection
• Healthy Boundaries

Premarital coaching isn’t about proving your relationship is broken. It’s about building a stronger foundation for where you’re trying to go.

The goal isn’t perfection, but preparation.

🗓️Ready to invest in your future marriage? Book a session with us today at LawrenceLifeCoaching.com.

05/24/2026

People see moments like this and think relationships are always easy when they’re healthy. What they don’t see is the healing, the HARD conversations, the tears, the unlearning, the accountability, and the decision to keep choosing each other through life’s transitions.

We didn’t always lead with patience, softness, understanding, or emotional awareness. Like many couples, we had to learn how to communicate better, stop reacting from hurt, and create emotional safety within our relationship.

Now? We laugh more, breathe easier, and really enjoy eachother. Our content is literally our real life.

As Marriage & Relationship Coaches, we help couples:
• Improve Communication
• Rebuild Trust
• Navigate Conflict
• Break Toxic Cycles
• Strengthen Connection
• Create Emotional Safety

Healthy love is possible. BUT it often requires healing, intentionality, and learning new ways to show up for one another.

🗓️Ready to strengthen your relationship? Book a coaching session with us today at LawrenceLifeCoaching.com.



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