06/16/2026
As a mental health coach, I've learned that many people seek intimacy first, when in reality intimacy is the result of several other things being built well. Adding these blocks is done over time in a relationship.
Healthy relationships aren't built on chemistry alone. They are built on a foundation of honesty, which creates safety. Safety allows trust to grow. Trust makes vulnerability possible. And vulnerability is what ultimately creates deep intimacy.
When one of these layers is weak, relationships can begin to feel disconnected, guarded, or unstable. When these layers are strong, people feel seen, accepted, and emotionally secure.
Whether you're working on a marriage, friendship, family relationship, or your relationship with yourself, it can be helpful to ask:
🔹 Am I being honest?
🔹 Do I feel emotionally safe?
🔹 Is trust being built through consistency?
🔹 Am I allowing myself to be vulnerable?
Intimacy isn't something we force. It's something we build—one layer at a time.
Stay tuned for more clarity on each of these building blocks.
If you need support in building these in your relationships, reach out! It would be my joy to walk with you on this journey - whether it is to build intimacy in a new relationship or in one where intimacy has been broken and you want to re-build.