09/04/2017
I got into a conversation with a guy last night who was complaining about the current dating scene and how social media (something that is supposed to make everyone more SOCIAL) is, in his opinion, the cause of our social decline. (How many times have I ranted and raved over this topic on my podcast? 😏)
I laughed out loud when he said, "And the ladies with the false advertising! You get her home and the padded bra comes off, all the magic compression clothes are removed, the heels get kicked off, the painted facial features are rubbed off, the hair extensions are taken out... And the next thing you know you're looking at someone you've never seen before in your LIFE! How are all these ladies not suffering from a self-inflicted identity crisis?!" 😂
And I have to say... I can sympathize with the guy! Now before any of you tee off with your disgruntled comments, think about it! He wasn't even necessarily saying it's the looks that count-- he was saying it's disconcerting to be speaking to someone all night/week/month/etc and then learn that he wouldn't actually be able to pick her out in a line up if she just did the sweats and a ponytail thing.
Yes, getting dressed up and doing your hair and make-up in a way that's not normal for you can be fun, especially if it's for a date. It announces "Hey, take note that I took some extra time to look nice for you because I wanted tonight to be special." In fact, I LOVE getting dolled up for my guy, BUT-- he also gets to see the real me all the time, and that's WHY it announces that it's something special when I get dressed up. 💃
So I'm not saying don't do it, but I AM saying make sure he gets to see the real you too, especially when you're getting to know someone. If a man is worthy enough to see your naked body, he damn well be worthy enough to see your naked face first. It's not about taking a stand on whether or not it's the looks that count-- it's about taking a stand on being willing to show our true authentic selves to one another, not just our dress-up self. Balance. ❤