02/28/2024
I recently made a parenting decision based on my own expectations and insecurities, and it didn't turn out well. Upon reflecting on the situation, I realized that the lesson I need to learn is to surrender and let go. But what does surrender mean? And how can I practice it?
To me, surrender means releasing control and attachment to a specific outcome or situation. In this case, I had placed my expectations and insecurities onto my children instead of having faith in their own journey, expectations, dreams, and feelings.
So, my next question was, how do I surrender? Here are the steps I have come up with:
1. Practice being fully present in the moment: I will pay attention to my thoughts and emotions without judgment or attachment. I will remind myself to be present, understanding that the past is gone, the future has not happened, and all I can control is the present moment.
2. Let go of what I can't control: I will focus my attention on the things I can control, such as my attitude, actions, and responses. By accepting that some things are beyond my control, I can redirect my energy towards what I can influence.
3. Practice acceptance: I will work on accepting things as they are, even if they don't align with my expectations. This doesn't mean that I have to agree with everything, but rather that I can acknowledge and make peace with the reality of the situation.
4. Give myself grace: I will be compassionate with myself and recognize that surrendering is a practice. Each time I make a mistake or struggle, it's an opportunity to learn and grow. I will treat myself with kindness and embrace the lessons that come with surrender.
After defining what surrender means to me and outlining the steps I will take to practice it, I felt a sense of ease and reassurance. I know that I am on my way to becoming a better mom and a better person through this journey of surrender.
I hope sharing my lesson can be helpful on your own journey towards personal growth and self-acceptance.
