06/16/2026
Why do we miss someone who hurt us?
It’s one of the most painful and confusing questions survivors ask themselves.
You know the relationship was unhealthy.
You know the abuse was real.
So why do you still think about them?
Why do you miss them?
Why does part of you want to go back?
The answer isn’t weakness.
It’s trauma bonding.
It’s grief.
It’s your nervous system trying to make sense of something that felt both painful and familiar.
In this episode, John and Melissa break down **the real reason you still miss your narcissistic ex**, why the bond can feel so strong after narcissistic abuse, why healing isn’t always linear, and what survivors need to understand to keep moving forward.
👉 Watch the full podcast. Link in the comments.
💬 Have you ever struggled with missing someone you knew was hurting you?