03/07/2022
From Childhood, we’re told many stories and learn to tell a few stories of our own.
It’s interesting to see a child’s imagination at work through their creative stories, yet the stories don’t end with childhood.
Storytelling continues in adulthood…
So, dear adult, what stories are you telling?
Are you telling a story of a victim? Has trauma taken over your voice?
I understand past traumas can have a great impact on the stories you tell. You may not even be aware of its impact, but pain has a voice of its own. Trauma can cause you to tell stories like, I can’t trust anyone. Nobody cares. I am alone. I can’t do it. Woe is me…and much more. Sounds familiar?
While you can’t control the past or it’s traumas, you certainly can control their impact. I encourage you as I encourage myself to please pay attention to the stories you tell and question why you tell those stories. Some stories are coping mechanisms, and you tell them without even thinking about them. Question why you respond/react to certain triggers the way you do. Don’t explain them away.
The traumas themselves are hard, but if you don’t pay attention and make an effort to recover by the grace of God, there’s a high probability of the pain getting worse. One area to pay close attention to is the stories you’re telling. Compare how you’re showing up after the traumatic event versus before? Be honest with your assessment and give yourself grace to evolve. Beating and condemning yourself will only fuel the trauma, so instead of telling false stories in effort to minimize the pain, choose rather the truth of the matter and grow from it. Saying I am okay doesn’t mean you’re okay, saying I am over it doesn’t mean you’re over it. Be real with yourself, be honest with your process, give yourself permission to grieve, but certainly decide to heal and evolve. Depend on God above all else and watch Him carry you through every trauma and story. 🙏❤️