06/04/2026
I took this photo at the shores of Lake Victoria. The tree I’m leaning on is dry, even though it stands surrounded by water.
This place was once dry land before the lake stretched its reach and claimed it. Back then, the tree was healthy, alive, and flourishing. But the moment the water became excessive, it withered.
Water is essential for a tree’s growth, but I learned something profound: excess of a good thing is poisonous.
From that moment, a truth settled in me, no matter how good something is, too much of it can turn poisonous.
It is good to be kind. It is good to be generous. But for many, these very virtues have become their downfall.
If you ever want to know your true place in someone’s heart, try saying "no" to something you once tolerated. That is when people reveal who they really are.
Sometimes, being too nice teaches people to take you for granted. They will use you like chewing gum, when the taste is depleted, they es**rt you to the dustbin.
It is better to stand for what is right than to be addicted to being liked. Because if you are always agreeable, the day you finally choose to stand for truth, you may be seen as a betrayer.
Love is good. But many people have lost relationships because they showed too much of it, so much that it was misunderstood as weakness or hidden motives.
For some, excessive love gave their partners permission to do whatever they wanted. Why? Because they became confident they had secured their loyalty and mastered how to win them back at any time.
Never forget: just because the water is calm doesn’t mean there are no crocodiles under.
Even in parenting, too much unchecked love can be destructive. Some parents have unintentionally ruined their children’s resilience by never telling them "no"—by giving them everything they asked for. So when life eventually denies them, they interpret it as rejection and take it personally.
No matter how cool a shade is, it cannot last forever. And if someone has only known your protection and provision, what happens when you can no longer offer it? You may have unknowingly set them up to struggle in life.
In the wild, survival demands strength. Even the tiger prepares its young for reality from the very beginning—because the jungle does not reward comfort, it rewards readiness.
The truth is simple: too much of anything, even something good, becomes poisonous.
Take time to do a self-audit. Ask yourself, what am I giving in excess?
And remember: even water, though essential for life, can dry a tree when it becomes too much.
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