17/05/2022
Is this even possible to lose 20kg of fat?
It was a hard no, at least at the beginning of his journey:
Despite trying several methods for over a decade without success, my client Faz (who has requested that his actual name not be used) was certain it was impossible to reduce 20kg of fat.
Alas! Faz (Per our client’s request, we have substituted his real name). He went on to become living proof that it is indeed possible.
So many challenges!
Of course, for Faz, it didn't come without challenges.
All these years of attempting to lose weight without success left Faz feeling frustrated, sad, agitated, and with a general sense of being lost.
He has tried every diet and exercise known to man to no avail.
For him, it was a discouraging and disheartening experience that left him feeling like he has no control over his life. Worse, he felt like he isn’t good enough or that he was born to be overweight. It was becoming a never-ending nightmare for the 40-year old dad of two.
But with the help of the steps that I’ll be revealing shortly, Faz did manage to lose 20kg of fat and is now reaping all the benefits of having achieved so.
Magic Pill?
While Faz initially thought this is another desperate claim or a “weight loss” magic pill, he eventually learned that the steps entailed in the program did NOT involve any diet pills, supplements, MLM, etc. Faz learned that we have coached hundreds of parents who want to take back control of their lives by losing their excess weight. Despite being a bit anxious, he was more excited to become part of this group.
What Was He Doing Wrong Before?
By understanding the fundamental causes that lie behind his inability to lose weight despite having tried several methods, Faz and I managed to identify the 3 main areas that we needed to solve first. These are:
1) He did not realise that he was, after all this time, doing the wrong things because he didn’t have the right knowledge and skills in the first place;
2) He was struggling alone and he failed to realise that this was a major cause of his setback; and
3) His lack of desire to work out or eat healthily kept him waiting for the appropriate mood and inspiration. He has lost control of his emotions and has felt a deep feeling of sorrow and anguish as a result. He was on the point of abandoning his efforts. He didn't know he needed to be saved.
How Did Faz Lose 20kg in 3 Easy Steps?
And because we have identified these issues, we were able to map out the exact three steps that he needed in order to lay out a strong foundation that paved the way toward his inspiring fat loss success.
1) KNOWLEDGE + SKILLS
What if Faz learns new and easy ways to lose the tummy inches?
Faced with failure in spite of his best efforts, Faz was angry with himself. The scale remained at the same level regardless of what he did. He wasn’t aware that his knowledge about how to lose weight was already outdated and that at his current age of early 40s, he needed to keep up with what his body can tolerate without disrupting his current lifestyle while still losing weight efficiently.
What did Faz learn?
So I shared with him about proper nutrition and healthy eating habits, as well as taught him exercises that are doable and yet challenging - those that bring results with the least amount of time. With his newfound self-assuredness and ability to make better dietary choices, as well as better time management for his daily workouts, he was ready to take the next step in his fitness journey.
A feeling of excitement.
What a great feeling it was! By breaking this habit of attempting and then failing, he realised he was on the verge of succeeding. For the first time, he told me - he felt elated and enthused about his next journey.
2) ACCOUNTABILITY + GUIDANCE + SUPPORT
How these little tweaks made a big difference to his consistency in being able to lose fat.
The next thing I observed was how much Faz relied on himself.
I tried to make him understand that while this is not necessarily a negative trait, attempting to accomplish everything by himself is a prescription for catastrophe given his present condition of zero to very little improvement.
That this is why he kept blaming himself for all the things that went wrong when what he could have done was to be more accountable, and seek guidance and support to encourage him to keep going, despite things “going wrong”.
So first, we worked on his accountability. We did this by making him share with me all of his food and drink intake, the quantity and quality of the exercises I’ve given him, as well as his feelings, frustrations, plans, and progress using different apps and his journal. It made things easier for him in such a way that it kept him on track and motivated.
Faz realised he couldn't do it on his own.
After so many failures, he realised he needed guidance. That he should have a strategy in place in case he went off course. For this, I was giving him all the resources he needed, along with counselling, if necessary.
Finally, in this process, Faz understood that support is essential. Using the support of coaches, mentors, friends, family, and even coworkers when things go rough would help a lot, I said to him.
Evidently, he shared that knowing that these people are behind him has helped him stay motivated when the scales aren’t moving in the right direction. But he also said he needed help in getting them to support his journey - lucky for him, I coach him on communication skills so he can attain success in this area too.
How Faz was able to taste and share success with the help of other like-minded individuals
Over the course of three months, Faz made connections with other like-minded clients of mine and he shared that they were there for him for more than just encouragement, but also support and guidance.
Faz was able to move from someone who was fighting his own battle to someone who now fights with a squad behind him. He told me that it made such a difference because it made his journey so much easier, so much more fun, and as well, he got rid of pitying himself so much because he knew there are others like him who keep on encouraging and rooting for him.
MOTIVATION + DISCIPLINE
What if Faz didn't have to wait for the right mood, feelings, and motivation to do the work?
Finally, Faz and I move on towards working on his motivation and discipline. Whenever he was feeling lazy and procrastinated, I told him that it was normal. Despite our good intentions, I told him that it’s only human that we don’t get pumped up 100% all the time. But instead of constantly waiting for the right mood to kick in and motivation to show up, Faz learned to use this downtime to think of a plan, set more realistic goals, and be more efficient with his time management.
He learnt how to brush things off instead of dreading failure due to his "weakness" as a human by creating simple but persistent routines instead of relying on motivation.
For Faz, it was challenging as he was doing this all by himself.
Of course, prior to achieving all of these, he used to struggle alone, constantly wait for the right mood and motivation in vain, and felt like he has no direction anymore.
As I was listening to his story for the first time, I can say that this is understandable. After all, after putting myself in his shoes, and all the years of hard work only to have my weight yo-yoing, it must have been difficult for me to become aware or perhaps to even question that maybe, maybe I am doing something wrong.
What having a strong foundation means for Faz in terms of losing weight forever.
Having successfully followed the three steps mentioned above, his foundations were set strongly. What this means is that no matter what challenges came his way - buffet parties, personal struggles, laziness, cravings, etc - he was able to go back to these foundations in order to help him get back on track. Finally, he successfully lost 20 kg of fat, and gained a fit body as a result of his efforts.
He has never felt so excited, so relieved at finally being able to see progress, after many years of aimlessly trying. It’s a huge win and he has worked so hard and smart for what he’s able to achieve. Thank you for doing the work, bro!. 🙂
Have you been in Faz' shoes before?
If you feel inspired or motivated by Faz’ story, I’d like to hear your story, too. Feel free to email me if I can help you.
If you'd like to know more about how I helped Faz, you may want to download the one page PDF roadmap and watch the coaching video after that 🙂
Coach Sharm
MSc (NTU), BA (NUS), PGDE (NTU/NIE)
Master Trainer trained: BOSU (USA), TRX (USA), PRAMA (Spain), TWIST (Canada)
Body Transformation Coach for more than 24 years
