14/06/2026
Presence Beyond Preference
When words fail to express what you truly mean, the picture takes over. It has a way of depicting what is hidden, lurking in the corner, buried beneath the surface, or floating above you. Especially when a picture is abstract, there is more than one way to interpret it, as each person sees it differently.
Spending an evening at the Gajah Gallery at the Singapore Arts Museum reminded me of the quote from John Keatingm, the English teacher from the movie “Dead Poets Society”:
“Medicine, law, business, engineering, these are noble pursuits and necessary to sustain life. But poetry, beauty, romance, love, these are what we stay alive for."
Humans are whole beings, and our decisions involve both the logical and analytical, as well as the intuitive and holistic aspects of our thinking and processing. One without the other handicaps our decisions, making them too skewed and simplistic.
In reality, we do tend to lean towards one or the other according to our preferences. When we coach, we engage the whole of the client. To stay present to the person in front of us, we need to tune into both sides of our thinking.
⚖️ When our presence is heavily hijacked by rational thinking, we risk becoming overly analytical or rigid in our interpretation. Coaching may then be reduced to a cognitive exercise that risks losing opportunities to notice unconscious cues, experience integration as a whole person, and support embodied transformation for the client.
❤️🩹 When our presence becomes over-empathetic, we risk losing perspective through emotional immersion. When we become acquiescent, we lose the opportunity to challenge, expand awareness, and awaken the client.
Like standing in front of each artwork, there is no single right interpretation, only an invitation to notice what emerges. The question then is not whether we are rational or intuitive, but whether we are aware of which part of us is taking the lead. What are we noticing, and what might we be missing? Not to judge, but to be present. Not to fix, but to awakening awareness.