17/06/2026
Most coaches think active listening means showing they're listening.
Nodding constantly. Saying "yes" repeatedly. Filling every pause.
But what if those habits are actually interrupting your client's thinking?
Research suggests that excessive verbal encouragement can unintentionally speed people up, pulling them out of their own reflection before they've fully processed what matters.
Sometimes, the most powerful thing a coach can offer is not another question or another "mm-hmm."
It's space.
Space to think.
Space to feel.
Space to make meaning.
The art of coaching is finding the balance between being present and becoming invisible.
Your client needs to know you're with them, without feeling led by you.
When we hold silence with confidence, we create a container where deeper awareness can emerge.
Notice your next coaching conversation:
• How often do you fill the silence?
• What happens when you wait just a little longer?
• Where might your encouragement be limiting deeper insight?
Presence is not measured by how much you say.
It's measured by how safe people feel to explore their own thinking.
What shifts for you when you allow silence to do some of the work?
Listen to the full Podcast Episode 256 and let us know in the comments: What shifts for you when you allow silence to do some of the work?
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